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| Tue, 05-29-2007 - 1:38pm |
But not about Shane. Just feeling sorry for myself. My anniversary with Shane was the 15th and my XH's annivsersary with his wife was the 24th. The've been married 4 years. I had a nice dinner out and got a great gift from him that he knew I'd like and I am very happy to have it...a new MP3 player that cost way too much.
I normally never bother with it, but I went to the new wife's myspace profile (I mean she DOES have photos of my son there that I don't get to see otherwise) and I read about her gift from my XH....a strand of pearls. It just killed me. I don't know if I am jealous that they are happy and I'm separated or if it's that he never bought me stuff like that. Not sure. It's one, the other, or both. I never got anything so meaningful from him. And she's rubbed stuff in my face that he did for her. Custom made engagement ring, diamond necklace for Mother's Day (and they have no kids together).
I guess I just cannot see how a marriage based on lies can last. Not that I begrudge their happiness. I mean if they are, great. Everyone deserves to be happy. I just am sad because I read about their great day and her receiving a gift that meant something to her when he never listened to me enough to do that for me.
Okay done whining.
~Mel~

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Its not just MySpace; you've got AIM (MSN Messenger), email, Facebook, messagboards. All of these cater to our human curiousity into other people's lives. But I learned from first hand experience a few years back with one of my exes, Mr. Chops, they were torture devices. Don't let them tempt you!
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Shane and I have always been different. We give regular everyday gifts as well as other special things. Shane listens to me say I like this or that but knows I'll never go out and buy it for me...so he does it. For Valentine's Day while I was pregnant with Emily, he bought me a blanket and a wooden box filled with different teas. He also got me some Godiva chocolates but what struck me was the blanket and tea. No, typically it is not romantic, but here is why it is...He told me when he gave it to me that he knew how I liked to cuddle under a blanket when it was cold and that I enjoyed drinking hot tea at night so he thought I'd enjoy a variety of different kinds. He observed what I do daily and what my desires were...not just handing me some random piece of jewelry or flowers. I got flowers and perfume for my birthday just a couple of months ago and I'll tell ya this-the flowers are long since dead and the perfume while wonderful, I do not use that as much. I enjoy the heck out of my MP3 Player.
No, I am not bothered by XH's new wife getting pearls because it is more romantic than my player. I loved the gift and I use it all the time. I was very happy to get that. What upset me was that she and my X are happy when their marriage is based on lies while mine is based on love and real feelings and we are split right now.
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Oy, Cheeky! LOL - I got my man an MP3 player for Christmas, and I am soooo totally in love with him!
(He wouldn't have looked too good in a pearl necklace anyway) ;o)
Clem xx
Couldn't agree more. I have bought so many things for Shane. I don't think it matters WHAT it as...rather what the THOUGHT behind it is. It think anything can be fromthe heart if the person giving it knows the person they are buying for. He knows me. I adore music. I'm a music FREAK! We subscribe to Napster and I can load music on my player for free. I pay one flat monthly fee and I get all the downloads I want. I hate it when books tell us how to have relationships, how to raise our kids, etc. We are all different and deal with things differently. Screw "The Rules". They don't apply here!
LOL!
Mel....getting fiesty!
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