Finally reached a conclusion...

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Registered: 10-09-2005
Finally reached a conclusion...
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Sun, 05-11-2008 - 2:28pm

Bikerguy and I had a long talk yesterday and clarified our relationship. Girls (and guy), I am so at peace right now. I finally slept well last night. I was actually the first to tell him the although I love him, I have realized that I'm not in love with him. He said he felt the same way and that he has enjoyed our friendship and doesn't want to lose it. I agreed completely and we discussed continuing on from here. I told him that I want to explore other relationships and date and he encourage me to do so. He's the first relationship I've had since my divorce. He told me he's always there for me and to let him know when I need anything and that we'll call/text/email as we always have. I told him that I was most concerned about losing him as a friend and am so relieved that we have come to an understanding. We spent the day hanging out and I went to a party with a girlfriend. I got ready at his house and when I went to leave, he looked at me and told me how beautiful I looked and that I was going to "turn heads" all night. He hasn't told me things like that for quite a while and it felt good to hear.

So, I'm not sure what the future holds but right now I fell content and at peace with myself and him.

Cat

Cat

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Mon, 05-12-2008 - 1:04pm

You have never burdened me...not one second! I so appreciate you and everything you are going through!! I am happy that the shift has occured with you and Bikerguy. You have taken back your personal power and self and you are seeing how amazing and real that feels.


I am doing fine! BE took DD and I to a Japanese restaurant for dinner last night. Yum! We all used the chopsticks and ate off each others plates..we had so much fun. DD is growing to love BE like a good friend. She's opening up to him and just being her silly, wonderful self. He loves that and it made Mothers day really special for BE too!


Hugs to you... AND I am smiling that you got flowers. How nice!!!

~Pacific~
~Pacific~

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