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Fri, 06-22-2007 - 9:54pm

Okay. I talked to the diver today. And I am resting with a cough so have a little time to type. I did have fun talking to him.

First of all we had quite a time connecting. He doesn't like or own a cell phone and freaked whenever my was "breaking up" - how many people do you know who don't have a cell phone? But that is okay, right? I mean he is a diver and you can't use one of those under the ocean. And it won't annoy his date during a meal if he doesn't have one.

Anyway, he asked me if I had been diving of course. And I named a few of the islands. In the middle of my list he loudly interrupted me and said I hate that place and would not go there. I said, oh really? Well, it is because he was attending a trade show and they had a raffle for a $5K trip to go to those islands. He was on the way to the raffle when a chick asked him to watch her booth so she could go for a smoke. She came back and he went to see who won - they said a man named XXXXXX (his name) won - but he wasn't here to claim it so we gave it to XXXXXXX. He was so mad he went and yelled at the lady that he hoped her smoke was worth it. So that is why he doesn't like that island.

Then he explained how he works at a wildlife care center. I had actually found a very expensive exotic bird in my neighborhood a few years ago and turned it in there. He wanted to know the whole story and every detail and when. I guess he was going to see if someone there remembered that.

He got a rabbit at that center - he visited it every day for 3 months and then chose it to come home with him.

He asked me in the middle of all of this how my day was going and I said fine - I mean there was nothing major in the way of drama or anything to report - just a normal day. He said it is a VERY BAD day for him. I asked why and he said because it is laundry day. Okay and so now I had to muffle a laugh.

Then he asked me about my computer and if I use ebay. He has bought over $40K worth of stuff on it and cannot move in his house. He collects antique diving articles. And he has been renting the same place for 10 years but has to get a house and has to sell some of his stuff so he can.

He wanted to know about my bike and where I do races. Asked a lot of questions. Then he had to get off the phone - I think his rabbit needed him.

Geez - do you think we are a match?

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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 1:08am

Note to self: do not ever mention my rabbit or my dirty laundry when trying to pick up chicks.

Mark

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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 9:33am

Did he have anything positive to say about anything?

I suppose it's good that he asked some questions about you. I also suppose it's good that he has a hobby.

But, man oh man. Where does he keep the rabbit if his apartment is all cluttered with antique things? And how many places can he not go to if he's had one bad experience?

I'm nexting this one for you!

I did love the post, though!

Moody, thinking hard about her own negativity


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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 10:46am
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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 11:32am

A pound down is good indeed - and hard won I know. I think if you dress up in fun stuff and get good candid shots with a close up of your face, in good light, it helps a lot. Guys like recent pix and ones where they can see your face.

The thing is, I tried not to judge him. He just has a different way of looking at life. I think because he had a basically nonstressful job and has never been married or had a kid, he is not structured. And I can see where laundry would be his biggest challenge. I mean, we as single moms would dust him in the multi-tasking and handling stress and way to much to do department.

But he is just too different for me. He makes mountains out of molehills and is not flexible or in growing and advancing mode. But he is a nice person. I really liked that he is so into helping all the animals. He has his nitch in life - he loves collecting old diving suits and giving lectures at the museum. And petting all the rabbits and reporting about them to the vet and to the people that want to adopt them. There are over 100 of them and he takes care of them on the weekends.

He called again this morning but I didn't answer the call. I wasn't sure if it was him or MrHighRoller - was avoiding both actually.

The lifeguard and I are messaging each other. :-) I am starting to like him - maybe too much because I don't know what he wants.

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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 11:45am

I have an Obsessive Compulsive (OCD) guy friend. He needs structure and finds it hard to be flexible. The mountains out of a mole hill description is an apt one for my friend.

He's a real nice guy but I don't do anything social with him because he does not like anything I like and visa versa. He does not go out to movies, hike, go see lectures, etc. He does not like to spend money (works as a bookstore clerk) or drive anywhere. He is not really a fun guy to be with.

We are basically phone friends. He is the best listener I ever met so we check in with each other and share our lives. My friend sounds like your diver-rabbit contact. He is 53, never been married, and is looking for a mate too and I would be quite surprised if he finds a match.

Mark

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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 12:26pm

Yes - the diver is 47 and never married. I am usually slightly leery of the over 40 and never marrieds but figured since he spent so much time diving maybe that was why. I try to keep an open mind, though. I know of at least three men that married in their late 40s and early 50s and they are very nice people.

I think there is a match out there for everyone, but if one is not open to bending a little with meeting half way, he or she might not find their match. I also think if you are not working to get out there more you will have a hard time unless you are in the younger <30 category.

I was thinking maybe he will meet a meek sort of girl in the animal shelter. Someone who doesn't have a lot of irons in the fire and who can appreciate him.

Sounds like you have a wonderful friend, though.