First date with the golfer

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Registered: 05-13-2005
First date with the golfer
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Fri, 06-15-2007 - 4:52pm

Okay - this was a funny thing. Just as I sent the Tennis Coach a note saying we are not a match and good luck in your search, the phone rang. It was the busy body guy - I am thinking he is too hyper - the minute I sent him a note back saying I liked his profile he emails again and then a little while later when I sent him my number he calls a split second later. And really I was still upset over what the Tennis Coach wanted to do for a first date.

So I ignored his call.

Meanwhile the Golfer sent a note saying he thought my coffee comment was hilarious and that he would love to meet me for coffee anywhere! Then he says he wants to meet for coffee/breakfast tomorrow and will call later.

So my phone rings again and it says his name and for a minute I got confused and thought it was the Lifeguard - but remembered - NO - that is Golfer - LOL!! :-D

Okay - so he asks what are you doing and I said "working" - LOL!!! and he asks if I have had lunch yet and I say no. So he wants to go to lunch! He says he is in sweat pants - just keep it casual. And I say okay I can be ready and there in 45 minutes.

So we meet for lunch.

It was a nice place - we both ordered salads. We had good conversations but are nervous. I forgot how one beer can really take the edge off but iced tea just doesn't do that. And that is okay.

I think he is really a nice guy and knows how to have fun but at the same time is responsible. I cannot see anything I don't like. And he is attractive. The whole thing needs more time to get to know each other of course - it is not like we have that instant chemistry that I did with the lifeguard - but that is more of a crazy get you in trouble and then it doesn't last type of chemistry. This is probably more like what I had with the fireman.

He still wants to meet for coffee/breakfast tomorrow and that is fine.

We have a lot in common - we are both active and athletic. He likes to play golf and tennis and he does like to ride a bike. Says he would like to ride with me. That is sweet for sure.

He has been divorced the same amount of time as me and does not have kids. But there are a lot of kids in his life- nieces, nephews and friends kids and he enjoys them. I think the kids would like him a lot actually since he does a lot of fun stuff with them.

He plays football, loves music and plays the guitar. It is obvious he is happy and has a full life. And a lot to share.

He has been on and off match like me - says he has met some really wierd people (okay - I can relate to THAT!) and some that are nice but not a match.

I would dare to say we are a match on paper - but we need to spend more than 1.5 hours doing lunch to see what happens and where it goes.

It is nice that he is in the same town and lives only 5 minutes away and is the same age - well - 2 years younger. He grew up here in the same place as me, too. And he is the same religion.

So, dear readers, thank you for putting up with the soap opera of the day from your CL and I will keep you posted!!

OH - and he gave me a nice hug goodbye and would have gone for the kiss on the lips - but I gave him my cheek. hahaha - I am getting good at that. I want to get to know him and not just go crazy with him like I did the fireman only to find out there is a big bad monster nearby.

OH - and I did ask him about his drinking and it is the same as mine - just a few, take it or leave it. I am not in any means condemning anyone who drinks more - I respect all - I just dont' think you can mix a near teetotaller such as me with a very heavy drinker who can down 2 12 packs in one day all by himself and then pass out at 8PM and do that all the time.

Okay - so that is all for now!

OH - and he has a very hot brand new sports car convertible - so that is kind of fun!!

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Registered: 08-23-2006
Fri, 06-15-2007 - 8:15pm
Sounds very promising!!
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Registered: 02-08-2006
Sat, 06-16-2007 - 7:57am

Not only do I enjoy reading about your dates- the golfer seems nice, and like you, I'm reserving judgement on him- but I love how spontaneous you can be.

I like that you are doing what you have to, but also willing to make time for things like spur of the moment dates. That's a very valuable quantity in a woman- or a man! Good for you, and keep up the good dates!

Moody, a planner


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Sat, 06-16-2007 - 2:14pm

Okay - we had a nice breakfast together this morning. So he just has to call. One thing I forgot to mention is that he works in a bar a few nights a week - it is sort of a job leftover from a long time ago and he does it as a favor for a friend and to get out and meet people. I am not sure if this means weekend nights. But I don't know if I want to date someone who always works weekend nights because that is the time I am looking to fill with an SO.

So I think he will call for another date and if he does I will see if he is open for those.

I don't mind spur of the moment, but it can't only be during my hours with DS and my work.

Meanwhile I have talked to the SwimmingCoach and we will meet up for coffee tomorrow. He is very nice although a little less enthusiastic than some I have talked to on the phone.

I am emailing the Lifeguard. I sense that he is looking more for a fling and his profile does indicate he is just looking to enjoy the singles scene and meet people and that is fine. But we are emailing.

And tomorrow I ride my bike a long way on the beach so I will have my eyes open.