The first date from a man's perspective

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Registered: 03-08-2008
The first date from a man's perspective
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Sun, 03-09-2008 - 6:31pm

Here are some things I thought I would throw out about first dates and how I would look at things:



  1. If I pick a woman up and open up the car door for her, I would look to see if she made an attempt to open mine. I understand alot of cars open automatically but I would look to see if she still tried to open my door


  • I just saw it as an indicator if she was a considerate woman

  • I meet her on the first date and she is significantly different than she described herself or what her picture looked like


    • I've dated all kinds of women and am open-minded but I just want a woman to be honest with me. If she lied I would not call her back

  • She gets a phone call during the date


    • There may be a legitimate reason but I generally would view that as a reason not to call her back or cut the date short. I either turned my phone off or if I had a reason (being on call 24/7 like I was at my last job) I would tell her beforehand so she wouldn't view me answering the phone as being rude

  • She talks alot about an ex-boyfriend(s)


    • Makes me think she still like her ex; I'm more interested in hearing about what she likes, what her passions are, what her goals and dreams are, etc

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    iVillage Member
    Registered: 05-13-2005
    Sun, 03-09-2008 - 8:25pm
    I just thought of another good question for you. How do you feel when a woman contacts you or winks at you online? Many guys say that is flattering - but I feel they never take you seriously unless you were their idea and they contacted you first.
    iVillage Member
    Registered: 10-30-2004
    Sun, 03-09-2008 - 8:36pm
    What about clothes and hair?
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    iVillage Member
    Registered: 04-08-2003
    Sun, 03-09-2008 - 9:15pm

    From my experience, most guys want you to wear something nice, but so do women with guys.


    iVillage Member
    Registered: 03-08-2008
    Sun, 03-09-2008 - 11:42pm
    For me, I like it if I get an email or wink from a woman on OLD. I like an independent woman so if I got a wink I would then look at her profile. If there are some things that we both like then I will contact her.
    iVillage Member
    Registered: 03-08-2008
    Sun, 03-09-2008 - 11:47pm

    a man is never going to pass up a good home cooked meal :-)

    iVillage Member
    Registered: 10-30-2004
    Sun, 03-09-2008 - 11:54pm

    if we go on vacation together I don't want to be sitting around while we could be golfing, hiking, at the beach, etc


    That's how I am.

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    Registered: 03-26-2003
    Mon, 03-10-2008 - 11:39am

    Just a note from a lurker--John Gray in Mars and Venus on a Date specifically tells women NOT to unlock the car door for a guy because the guy is trying to be gracious and giving and her role is to be receptive and appreciative of the things he's doing.

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