First date report

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First date report
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Sat, 04-26-2008 - 3:43pm

Okay. Sorry you had to wait til today - but I was so sleepy when I got home that I couldn't sit and type. LOL!! It is still the leftover fatigue of my race.

Okay - yesterday was so crazy around here. When DS got home, he decided to have all of his friends over to swim. Which is okay but we were trying to get a lot of work done and my hairdresser, who has been away on vacation and has neglected about 3 inches of roots, was coming. He makes house calls, which is way cool.

So my hairdresser is here, the phone is ringing, the kids are screaming and the dogs are running wild - not exactly relaxing on my nerves. Then my riding buddy friend calls - we were trying to do this 150 mile bike ride for charity next weekend and didn't sign up in time - but he got us on one of the corporate teams because they don't have enough people who are fit enough to do that ride. But that means medical forms have to be filled out, we have to raise money and get a room and stuff like that. It is really fun to go because his wife will take DS and their son and we can snorkel after the first day of riding in a place that is a national coral reef park.

And in the middle of this, KarateMan calls to confirm the date. DS is getting his hair cut after being dragged out of the pool - things are rolling along. And DS's dad even manages to pick him up on time for the weekend.

So now it is time to get ready for the date. I really wasn't nervous which is good for a change because usually I roll through the closet like a freight train trying to find something to wear. Maybe it helps that I have organized it! I picked a pair of tobacco-colored slacks and a nice fitting Ann Taylor blue top.

So I am like 3 minutes away and he calls right on time to say he is there. I pretty much had to park and said okay - will call you when I am there so we can find each other. We went to this huge casino complex - it has a lot of fun outdoor shops, restaurants and bars. So, I am coming into it and call him and he is telling me how much he likes it and how he found a store he likes. And all of a sudden I see him in front of me talking on his phone and I start laughing and say I am right behind you! LOL!! So we had a good laugh at that. And he said I looked nice and thanked me for coming out.

We went to a fun outdoor place where they have good music but it is not so loud that you can't talk and the weather was really nice. We talked and had one drink and walked around and then talked some more.

I think we had fun listening to each other's stories. He grew up in a family of 6 and started working when he was young and he has a job that is good and he is excited about. He seems to be really good with people and now manages a large staff. He joked that he learned to be good in sales because he was always helping his little brother, who was really shy, to find new friends.

He also has a passion for working out and his karate and he had a lot of questions for me about what I do and seemed impressed. And he also asked a lot about my trips with DS and told me about some of his – has pretty much done a lot of stuff locally but would not be opposed to some travel. I think he is nice and easy going. It was just an enjoyable evening that went by so quickly - I remember looking at my watch and couldn't believe it was midnight.

He was married for 10 years and was a step dad and enjoyed that - he was even the cub scout leader. But we didn't get into each other's past too much. We did talk about dating and online dating and he says he finds that he has to be proactive and make an effort to get out because he doesn't want to end up getting too set in his ways and ending up alone - and I liked that he said that.

Probably the only tiny thing I didn't like was that he was showing me a dressy t-shirt in the Harley store he liked that I don't like - and I guess I was surprised at that because his profile shows him wearing really preppy work clothes. But at first I thought he was joking and he thought I was joking too but then we realized we were serious and he said so you would be embarrassed to be with me if I wore a shirt like that and I said YES. And he said good thing he wore the preppy one on the date and we both laughed.

He walked me to my car and asked me if I had fun and would like to get together again. We gave each other a hug and then I drove away and he walked to his car. He did remember that I am doing the 150 mile ride next weekend so said we can get together before or after that and he will call.

I think my approach, and especially after MA, is to see how it goes and build over time. I think the whole experience with MA - about how someone can appear so good but be so bad over time left me more cautious.

I guess that was okay for a first blind date. Now we have to see if he will call.

I was invited to a party tomorrow for another team who is raising money for the bike ride. And I do have the bike ride itself with 3000 people who are riding a bike - so will work on being social there. And will keep you posted.

Thoughts and questions welcome of course.

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Tue, 04-29-2008 - 2:34pm
He sounds a like a great match for you Judy!
Rosecolouredspecs

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