First "date" second meeting update :)

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Registered: 03-27-2003
First "date" second meeting update :)
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Sat, 10-09-2004 - 5:02pm
Tom (the single dad with a 4 year old I told you about the other day) came over last night to take me to dinner. My mom could only sit for 3 hours so we just went to a local brewery and had dinner. Although he gave me the option of meeting some of his friends I thought it would be better when we had more time. It ended up my friend Mark was at the place we went to with his boss (who was my old supervisor at the that last job that screwed me) anyways - I introduced Tom and then we sat down alone. Tom immediately picked up on my old supervisor's guilt which was funny. We had a great dinner and have really laid out everything on the table. All kinds of crap. But all kind of good too. We just talked and talked. Then we came back to my house and he talked with my mom a little while I checked on Alyse. My mom seemed very comfortable with him which is VERY unusual. Then we talked somemore. Until 12:45 when i told him I was tired for the 3 time and he left. I didn't want him to go - I could have kept talking - but I was falling asleep! He gave me a really nice NICE hug on the porch and walked down the steps - shuffled around for a sec and then did a mental kick to get himself in the car and we waved at each other while he drove away.

I had one drink at dinner - he had iced tea.

Well this morning I sent him a short email thanking him for taking me to dinner and told him I found him very interesting and enjoyed the date and was looking forward to getting to know him even better.

I got the CUTEST email back - he hadn't really let on any feelings for me as far as more than friends but he did talk alot about things he wanted to show me, do with me, people to meet. THings like "Well, you will see when you meet him" and things like that. But nothing else really lovey-dovey. So I was wondering what his feelings were - well in the email he told me that he couldn't stop thinking of me and it took him everything to not jump out of his car and run back to me on the porch! He said he didn't make a move because he wasn't sure what I wanted and knew that we both needed to be responsible but how he longed not to be. I thought that was really cute. then he called himself a goofball and said that which does not kill us makes us stronger and he deserved blue tights and a red cape! HEHEHEHE.

So all in all a good night. I am not closing anydoors yet but I am thinking this guy may be a real possibility :)

Laura

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Sat, 10-09-2004 - 6:59pm
This sounds really good.

Take your time and let it evolve. Keep your eyes open.

Did he say why he got divorced?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 10-09-2004 - 7:20pm
Oh yah - I have all the dirt. We have shared a lot. What if funny is we talked about an hour ago and I mentioned that I was supposed to go out tonight because my sister offered to babysit and that happens very rarely and I decided that I wouldn't (basically it was another date but I don't think I made it sound that way - I said a bunch of people - which was true but it was sort of a date too) and he was like "so you have a sitter tonight?" and I have to admit I was hoping he would ask me out. hehehe. So I made him think it was his idea and I told him I would think about it and call him back. Well he called back (while I was on the phone with ROB who was asking me out LOL) OH BOY - this is complicated!

Anyhow he calls back and is apologizing because he thought he had cormered me into coming to go out with him! I told him no I would love to see him again. He said he thought maybe he made me say yes because he got so 'geeked" about it! hehehe. I assured him that it was fine and he said "Ok - them I can't wait to see you - disregard the call!" It was funny. He told me he was just trying to be a gentleman. :)

I don't get an opportunity to go out with a sitter available so I figured I should do it. Besides, I think I am already on the right path because it was really my idea to get together b ut I made him think it was HIS LMAO! But I WILL KEEP MY PANTS ON :)

PROMISE. (but this time I want a goodnight kiss at least!)

Laura