First step....Restraining Order!!!!!
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| Wed, 07-20-2005 - 3:57pm |
So i got away from this person, and i don't even want to get into the situation that occurred today. Needless to say the man pulled a knife out on me. Honestly i wasn't even scared, just MAD AS HECK! So i rushed my little butt on down to file a restraining order. That will show him, just got to find out now if the judge will sign it or not. I'll find out tomorrow. I want to thank everyone on their wonderful advice on here. This man will never change, and i spent so much time letting him live off of me and my daughter. I'M DONE!!!!!!! I'm going to take some time out for myself and get myself some friends, so really good ones. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as always. I'm just determined not to end up like my mom in an abusive relationship, it's not worth it. I've never had anyone touch me, and NEVER WILL!
Yasmari

I am no expert - but I think you should file a police report. And don't stay at your house for a while. Stay somewhere else.
Get out of contact - change phone numbers, etc.
Be very careful. Talk to the police and see what they say.
Also - here is the domestic violence hotline - Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE
I urge you to contact them - they may have good advice. A knife is pretty serious - don't take this lightly, sweetie. Be careful.
(edited to add hotline number)
Edited 7/20/2005 5:06 pm ET ET by cl-west1745
Yasmari,
I agree with Judy (usually do!) that you should REALLY take this seriously and seek help. Make sure EVERYONE you know and the police in your area know that he pulled this stunt, in case he tries something again, you have a record of it, and your friends and family can keep an eye out for you.
I also would encourage you to have someone stay with you for a little while, have the phone number changed and let people at your work know of the threat you've had so they can watch out for him at your work. Also, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, make sure the people watching your daughter know, so they can protect her from abduction. Who knows the lengths these people go to "get you back". They don't see things the same way, and sometimes their motto is, "if I can't have her, no one can"- and those are the worst cases.
Ds' dad pulled a lot of stuff when we split, left threatening messages and even walked off with our son once (gave him back a few hours later). I too was VERY ANGRY with his behaviour, but took it VERY seriously. Now, he never did what he threatened, and apologized later for it, but you never know, right? Even if you THINK you know someone, they can just snap one day and do something you never saw coming.
Do not talk with the man, do not go home if he's waiting on your doorstep, do not answer the knocking on the door. Have your cell with you and fully charged at all times. Do not hesistate to call 911 if you are even suspecting that he is around (especially once the restraining order is in place), that little gut feeling may save your life!
The number Judy gave you will get you in contact with a million people who know what to do and how to do with it. Even your local police department is a HUGE help to get safety tips. Once that restraining order is in place, YOU cannot call him either, so remember that!
I wish you security and happiness in the days to come. You will get through this and you will come out the other side healthier and happier!
Alison