First Tif ..Should I have been upset?
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First Tif ..Should I have been upset?
| Sun, 04-20-2008 - 5:37pm |
I'm a regular lurker and am always impressed at the group (more like family, actually) of smart and strong women .. and Mark :-)...

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Oh wow... I got honorable mention here, huh?!! ;-)
I like what we have, too. Commitment, but no forcing to blend. Just keeping things just the way they are. But the BIG difference here is that both of us are free for dating. I would be cautious about the fact that your BF isn't divorced yet... but yet he is already more emotionally involved than you are. To me, that could be a sign of him jumping in too soon, just replacing one "love of his life" with another. But only you would be able to tell, as you're the one with him.
I'm also curious why you are giving him a key to your place, but you haven't let your son and he meet?? That part doesn't make sense to me either. I understand not having him and your son spend all sorts of time together until you know things are right... but why exchange keys already?
I see some caution flags... but those things can also be negotiated and could ease up as more time passes and the relationship has more time to grow. The whole bit about planning time together... it's just part of being in a relationship, IMO. Things happen, other things fall through... it just happens.
I just find it interesting that the things you are questioning, aren't the same ones I am questioning! Not that I'm saying "I'm right, you're wrong" or anything like that- just that I find it interesting that different people will notice such different things as issues to be addressed.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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