Follow-Up to "the date"
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Follow-Up to "the date"
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 1:05am |
First off, thanks to everyone's advice. Ah, the mystery continues, is it a date, was it a date, who knows? My "He's Just Not That Into You" sense would tell me that I would know if it was a date, but the question still remains what else could it have been? All my friends say it was. For starters, he was a true gentleman. He paid for everything. OH, and I had to take my daughter(which would have been a downside for any other guy, except this one happens to be perfect, and he didn't mind at all), in fact I think he kinda liked having her along. She's still a "baby" so she slept in my arms until she whined a little and he just took her from me and comforted her back to sleep. There was no kiss, no nothing at the end of the night, but that's not always uncommon. Only, the one reason that I feel as though it may have not been a date...the way he acted today at work. Strange. Not a bad strange, but not a particularly good strange. Again, my "HJNTIY" sense told me to just be laid-back and let him come to me. And he did, to make a long story short, if he were to be categorized as my new boyfriend, he would act unlike any other I've ever had as far as showing his feelings...help?

It sounds like you had a good time, but it doesn't sound like a date to me. If I were you, I wouldn't pursue anything with him. Just be your regular friendly self. See if he will ask you out on a real date, but let him do the asking.
I've been single with a baby. Pretty much, you don't want to leave your baby for anything. Taking a baby on a first date, or don't know if it's a date kind of a thing, is not a good move. He might have been okay with it at the time, but I know how men think. They are huge babies themselves. He's probably thinking.....gee, she doesn't have time to date. She can't go out with me without bringing her baby.
You probably don't want to leave your baby. I don't blame you. If it were me, I'd take it easy on dating for a while. It's better to get to know a man first (by himself) before involving children...especially if that man doesn't have children of his own.
I think you have to wait and see. It could be that he is being careful because you work together or he doesn't know what to expect with a mom AND her baby going out. If he is "that into you" so to speak he will show more interest and ask you out again.
I agree with fivesense that you should NOT bring your baby on a date. Make a decision now - either you will date and it is okay to leave the baby with someone you trust or take a break from dating until you can.
Also, if he does ask you out again you should clarify your intentions - maybe something to the effect of letting him know that if it is a date you are more than happy to get a sitter.
Good luck and keep us posted. :-)