Former In-laws any suggestions

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Former In-laws any suggestions
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Tue, 12-18-2007 - 4:53pm

for balancing my life and letting them have time with the kids.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 12-18-2007 - 6:36pm

OH dear. I can see how that would all get your back up.

You need to figure out what works for you and stick to it. Period.

About this weekend - if you can get them ready easy and 4 is convenient you do get a break and have them out of your hair for dinner. But if this is not good or true then say no.

As for Xmas, you are not driving anywhere! They need to drive and they need to work around your plans. Be more selfish and then you will be fine. I would say since he does not offer child support you have no extra money for gas.

Why not take the kids with you and then they have to come to where you are to pick them up? I usually offer that as an alternative when exh is late. "That is fine if you are late but we are going to be here doing this and you can go there." I NEVER sit home waiting for him if he is late and I have somewhere else to go.

Good luck and keep us posted. I am sure this board collectively will come up with some good ideas for you.