Freaking out

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Freaking out
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 11:32am

Well, up until now I have been fine but as I look at the calendar and see what time of year it is I am totally stressed. The holidays will be here in no time. The passing of my mom is making this even more difficult for me. I knew it would not be perfect this year but it will be absolutely awful. Any suggestions would be helpful.

My kids will be with me for Thanksgiving so that should be fine. It will just be the four of us, but I love them and we will have a great holiday, I'm sure. We will watch parades, eat lots of turkey, play outside some. I'm sure it will be fine.

Christmas is a different story. They are with their dad this year. I have nowhere to go and will be alone for Christmas eve and Christmas day. All of my friends will be traveling and spending time with their families so I will be completely alone. Christmas isn't really a day you can just ignore as there will be nothing open and no people out and about. I'm not feeling very good about it. I have been in tears already and wishing I could just sleep through it. I'm not sure what I will do. There will be no calls, nothing just me with no one to talk to no one who cares.

Thanks for listening to me whine.
Priscilla

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 11:00am

Thanks a lot I appreciate the advice. I do try to keep my eyes open anywhere that I go for men. I look when I'm at my children's activities and when I'm out alone. I don't really try much when I'm out with the kids doing day to day things. I'm too focused on them and getting stuff done. Hard to really talk in any kind of a store with them. There are 3 of them and they constantly bicker and I get a lot of "mommy, can we have...?" So usually I'm on a mission to just finish up.

Priscilla

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 11:32am

As a matter of fact, I was pretty close to one of his cousins. I haven't heard from her since the separation and have thought about reaching out to her several times.


I bet that she misses you too but is unsure if want to be contacted. I imagine that a phone call or visit would be welcomed since it seems you were close before. I know lots of people who stay in contact with their ex's family because if you think about it, your not really divorcing them. You grew to know and love them. Would it be awkward to see her, or would your ex have problems with you staying in contact with his cousin/s?


~Pacific~

~Pacific~
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Registered: 08-23-2006
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 12:03pm

I understand and am sending hugs to you.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 6:45pm
Oh wow - you got lucky on the inlaw thing. Well, then, just be glad for some peace and quiet. Maybe you can talk to your neighbors and let them know that you are alone and can help them with their dinners and such? Also, be glad you don't have to shop for your exh or his family - that was always a big pain for me. You see, I did not like my inlaws because they were rude to me. In the beginning I felt so lucky to "get another family" but they didn't see it that way and in the end they were a big part of why we didn't work out.

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