Friends who drag you down
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Friends who drag you down
| Fri, 06-27-2008 - 2:01pm |
Isys and Rlch have posts about friends who.... well, let's say they take more from the relationship than they give back, and the way they live their lives isn't quite the way Isys and Rlch do.
It made me wonder...

How can you tell which is which?
I try very hard to be a supportive friend.
We have friends throughout our lives that are there for a reason, a season or for life.
"I try very hard to be a supportive friend. However, I think there is a big difference between someone going through a rough spot and needing support, and someone who continually creates drama in their life. That kind of person thrives on the drama and unless they seek professional help, they're never going to change. I cannot and will not have 'those' types of people in my life - its just too much!"
Totally agree, Moon. And, also like you, I have experienced both situations. Friend going through a rough patch, I do all I can to help. Totally needy drama queen? too tiring, I keep my distance.
QB, funny how I could always set boundaries w/gal pals, but took 30 years to learn to set boundaries w/my X
I don't make friends with people who 1) don't take responsibility for their lives, i.e. blame others and/or 2) do not try to help themselves.
Mark
We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
""I try very hard to be a supportive friend. However, I think there is a big difference between someone going through a rough spot and needing support, and someone who continually creates drama in their life. That kind of person thrives on the drama and unless they seek professional help, they're never going to change. I cannot and will not have 'those' types of people in my life - its just too much!""
Agreed - and well said.
I tend to have layers of friends - the really close ones - we know each other and help each other and like the way we think - then there are ones out of that that are nice but not as close - and then the outer layers are probably ones more like the not so good type - good to know them and have them be part of the network - but you don't depend on them or tell them much for various reasons. The bad ones are not friends at all - just acquaintenances - I can only think of one or two of them whom I never see or speak with - but I wouldn't be rude - would just say hi if I saw them.