FWB Rules

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FWB Rules
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Thu, 08-30-2007 - 6:57pm

Alright ladies and men... what are the rules for FWB...

On Seinfield... Elaine and Jerry agreed to no sleepovers and no calling the day after... are there really rules... let me know... i'm knew to this....

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Registered: 03-25-2002
In reply to: loonybunny
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 9:13pm

And here's the update on me ... I've stayed home every night since Saturday... Summer texted me saying she was going out for karaoke, but i replied that i was taking a break... Then, Tuesday night I snuck out...LOL... yes, snuck out. I went to sleep at 10 pm, and had my phone on the charger... didn't hear it ring the first couple times... At 2:15 am, it woke me up and it was Sean. So, i called back... he wanted me to come over... and since the children are sleeping thru the night now, and my brother is staying at my house.. i thought, sure I can sneak out for a little...

I feel great about me... i feel like i'm being honest now... not expecting him to be something he isn't and not pretending to him either... (Sean is truely HOT!! If ever i was going to do the FWB thing, i'm glad it's with a good looking guy.) Okay, so it probably won't go any further than a few Hot nights... I'm enjoying it while it last. Like i've said before, it's been a very long time since i've had great sex... that was my birthday wish back in July and now I feel "satisfied"....lol.

i still wanna know your so called rules... if any...

Anyhow, i'm on the night shift for the next few days.. so i'm probably going to stop in the karaoke bar tonight after work for couple hours.. but the difference is i wont' try to flirt with everyone... i might say a few words to Jimmy.

loonybunny

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: loonybunny
Thu, 08-30-2007 - 11:55pm

My rules?

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: loonybunny
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 6:20am

You are just amazing to me that you can have a FWB and not get attached but it is indeed true from your accounts. I never thought that to be possible because I am not that way and have read many accounts of others who are like me and get attached.

I think the biggest thing to learn here is that you are okay with him only calling once a week and only wanting the sex and knowing it is not going to be anything more and you don't want more from him and you are dating. Of course if the sex is great and you know you don't want to be with him and you are looking for someone else everything is sort of on your terms. I guess it is on his terms too if he is getting what he wants. So in a way it is balanced. That must be the key.

But you are friends and that is a good thing - it seems that if you needed help he would care enough to be there. I have always liked him from what you write - don't know why. I guess it is a right now thing and not a forever thing.

Your new pix are GREAT!

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Registered: 02-08-2006
In reply to: loonybunny
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 7:46am

As for rules, I think just like any situation or relationship, it varies depending on the parties involved.

I don't have sex with people who are having sex with others, so I make that known before starting a FWB.

If either party starts seriously dating someone, the FWB is off.

I don't make myslef available if it isn't convenient to me- this isn't a serious relationship, and I don't go out of my way to make it work. If he calls or I call and it isn't a good time, I don't give in. I certainly don't get up at 2am because he called after having been out and striking out with everyone else.

Most importantly for me, I don't take it too seriously, and I don't get attached. Even if the sex is amazing, I can stay emotionally detached, which makes it work for as long as it lasts.

Obviously, practicing safer sex is probably the biggest rule I have.

Moody, who doesn't share well


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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: loonybunny
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 8:11am

Yea, i guess its pretty uncommon from what i hear - although i do know of a couple women like me.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: loonybunny
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 8:32am

That is a big age difference - so I guess that is the point - although he sounds to be in better shape than most guys your age. And it is huge that you have known each other for so long and he helps around the house. Sounds like a guardian angel somehow!! Here just when you needed it most, especially after all you had to go through with your dodo exh and his drinking and stuff.

I had to ask one funny question - does he know his nickname is Lawn Boy?

You are a riot!

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: loonybunny
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 8:43am

roflmao - No, he doesnt know his nickname is Lawn Boy - yet

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Registered: 04-08-2003
In reply to: loonybunny
Fri, 08-31-2007 - 9:35am

I have had several past FWB's that are all still in my life. They lasted on a average of 1-2 years. And you are soo going to laugh, but they have a contract with me. Signed contract. This makes it very FWB official for me and nothing more.

Rules:
No emotional attachment, you do not fall in love with, if it happens, your gone

You can date others, but you cannot have sex with someone else, contract is then over unless specified prior that you do have others

WE definitely have safe sex with a condomn and you have to show proof of health

Then I rule out certain things I do not do. LOL

No jealous issues or questions about me and my private life

Those are the top ones' but it's about 10-12 rules and they have to sign and i have to sign and I keep the original and they keep the copy. :)

Works great, it makes me mentally unattached and I don't have to deal with BOB

However, I haven't had one in awhile, but the thought is starting to sound good, because I haven't had sex in ages (Ok, over a month, but that is AGES for me).