Geez, sad about the dating scene
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| Tue, 11-16-2004 - 1:19pm |
It was eerie. We discussed how our relationships played out. It was extremely similar. So similar, that we did exchange our guy's names just to make sure that we hadn't dated the same guy. The patterns were that identical.
I thought this kind of guy...commitmentphobic was something that happened in older guys who have never been married. But, this friend of mine says that the younger ones are like this too. I don't remember it being this way in my 20's. You dated a guy, were boyfriend-girlfriend right away, and then broke up some months later after a fight.
Now, dating seems like this.....you date a great, fun guy. You're a great, fun gal. He reels you in. You let your guard down. He gets spooked and runs and you're left wondering what you did wrong. And, he's moved onto his next fabulous woman. You were fabulous to him too, when you didn't care about him.
I feel very disheartened. The never been married guys fake wanting a relationship. The divorced guys tell you upfront they just want sex. Yet, no man wants a relationship.

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Your luck will change because you have the knowledge and you are making a conscious change in what you do and what you want.
That is so awesome that you turned Paul down for the weekend!! Give yourself a pat on the back. You are getting so strong!! Now you are in charge!!
Remember how we all felt when we were pregnant. Most people get tired and have nausea. Every day seems to tick by so slow and it feels like you will be that way forever. But you are not. I think our search for Mr. Right is the same way. It feels like it will take forever.
I know we will not be single the rest of our lives!! I have faith!! :-)
Hey Donna,
I know exactly what you mean about talking about meaningless sex or being tempted by it(but not following through with it). Sometimes I get discouraged and think, I ought to just get a college boy and have meaningless sex. I did have an opportunity like that present itself to me (recently). I met this 22 yr old guy when I went out with my 20-something co-workers. He was very taken with me and I knew if I gave him the least bit of indication that I'd go for him...he would have jumped at the chance. Sometimes I think a guy like that would be good, because I would never have feelings for him and it would just be on my terms. But, the reality is something different. I really want a partner, not a playmate. So, I'll stay good and keep waiting for what I really want (companionship, love)
Good for you for turning Paul down. That's wonderful and strong of you!
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