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| Tue, 05-08-2007 - 10:51am |
Hi,
I have a similar question to florence's question....which means I might get a similar answer...lol.
Beachguy called last night. That's something that he called right?.. but why wait til after the weekend?? He said he's been busy... spending time with his son and with work. He described how they went to somewhere and ate a big dinner.... For me, that doesn't explain why he didn't call over the weekend...hmmm.
I told him I saw spiderman on saturday and that there are many other movies I want to see this month... hoping he would offer to take me to one of them ... he got interupted by another call... but then called me back. He asked me how my day was.. how my work is going, etc. He was considerate... but I'm leary about him calling AFTER the weekend. Is he stringing me along? As for this weekend, he said he's going out of town and won't be available. Plus, I told him since it's Mother's Day I'm sure I'll be busy this weekend, too. At the end of our conversation I said, "Well, keep in touch and let me know when you have a free weekend."
I hated being the one to say something like that... but I don't regret making my feelings known. that's not exactly a "chasing him" statement but then again, it would have been better if he said it. I know my next move is leaving the ball in his court. He knows my number, he knows i'm interested in getting together, he needs to be the one to call. But I'm not going to wait on him. I'll keep getting out there...
So, what do you think... is he interested or stringing me along?
Loonybunny

He wouldn't have bothered to call you if he wasn't interested. It sounds like the weekends when he has his son are just about family time, which I think is a very good sign that he is a great dad. I wouldn't expect a single dad to call me on the weekends he has his child, not at the beginning in any case.
I think what you said at the end of the call is great - it lets him know you are interested, but puts the ball in his court. The perfect situation!
Definitely don't write him off just yet!
Clem xx
That's a hard one to call- he's not asking you out, more like he's just keeping in touch...
>>he'll say "wow! she's in demand! I better get in there!!" <<
Do they really say that?? My fear is that if a guy thinks I go out on a lot of dates, he'll think "she's too much of a partier for me." But then again, if a guy doesn't have the confidence to get in the running, then I suppose that's a negative sign.
Welcome to the Dating Arena.... for adults only. LOL.
thanks again for the pick me up.
Loonybunny
thanks. It's good to know I didn't get the complete blow off... and now that I think of it... he also told me that his son played baseball this weekend. He sounded like a proud dad.... he said his son hit the ball and played good. He's told me that his son means the world to him... He did sound a little apologetic for not calling back sooner... but i'm just so suspicious of all the jerks who never call back... that i guess that's why i was leary...
i won't write him off just yet... thanks again.
I say to not put too much into his 'not calling' because he DID call eventually. If he wasn't the least bit interested, he didn't have to/wouldn't have called at all.
But because he isn't asking you out, then I would put him into the "nearly NEXT" file. Don't count on him for anything, and don't get your hopes up for him and let it be. If he wants to step up to the plate and try developing a relationship, then he will. In the meantime, keep on having fun with YOUR life and let him be. He knows where you find you.
You wouldn't want a man you have to hunt down anyway- so like I said... put him in the "nearly Next" file- because you're not booting him out, but you're not waiting on him, either. I also agree that if he was busy with his son over the weekend, that is a GOOD thing that he was busy- and wasn't trying to date when he has his 'kid-weekend'- because if he only gets his son every other weekend, then he can put off the dates til he is free. That's a sign of a committed Dad and I wouldn't knock him for that.
Don't expect him to do ANYTHING. It's not like you're fully dating or anything yet! He'll call when he calls... and if he doesn't, you'll still be having fun with your own life without him in it. And later, if you find out that he is too busy to date you as often as you'd like to date- then it's no big deal to let him go, is it? You'll know that your dating styles/needs don't match and you'd both be better off with people who match better. You don't want a partner you have to DRAG into action anyway. (Just like you wouldn't want a partner you have to beat off with a stick because he has TOO much spare time on his hands.) Just keep looking until you find someone who has that balance that matches yours.
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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