getting tired of my job....

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Registered: 07-03-2003
getting tired of my job....
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Thu, 08-03-2006 - 2:25pm
I work at a salon, and if anything ever happens to DS and I have to take off of work, I get so frustrated with my boss. Being that I am a single mom, I try to explain that my son is my sole responsibility, there's no calling FOB if he's sick and can't go to daycare, my son comes first, whatever happens I'm there, I have to be, I want to be, if FOB can't watch him on the days he's supposed to have visitation, I take off of work...etc...etc..so yesterday FOB took DS to the doctor..rash turned out to be yeast infection....my son stayed up and was twisting in pain..etc..etc..so I decided I'd go to work and leave early that way he can be at home, comfortable, clean, no diaper on, and so on....my boss says"well can't somebody watch him, we're booked, we really need you, i'm sure he'll be fine, what about your mom, you didn't tell me he was sick..." OH MY GOD!!!!!!! I get so frustrated, this is always the case...it's bad enough that all of this always falls on me I get no help (mom's out of town and i miss her to death we talk everyday she hears me out, advises, helps) there's no other parent really, to feel all of that and still have my boss nag like that. My mom works at a salon too, not only is her commission higher, but she takes off whenever, and when she leaves they tell her thankyou for workin' there helping them make money!!! I can't wait to finish school, the day I leave I want to give her a piece of my mind. She would never understand, she's been married for 20-something years, she's had that help, she makes her hours, etc...I wish I could quit and just focus on school and my son....
but i gave in i told her if my bf could watch him i'll try to go in from 4-6 when it gets a lil' busier....who's wrong?? I understand it's her business, but to me it's just a bs job till i finish my school...i don't know

 

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 7:10pm
Employers are never excited when you have to take off work to care for a sick child. This happens to married couples too when both of them work.
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Registered: 10-07-2005
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 8:58pm

If it's once in a while, then I'd say what's the problem?


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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 08-06-2006 - 9:08pm

It is not an easy situation for sure. Sorry to hear you are so stressed and you don't have enough help. It sounds like you are really at the end of your rope with FOB and the boss!!

I think you need to look around and find an alternative to the day care situation. Is there someone who can watch him for a few hours when you need it? Maybe someone who lives near you? Or someone who works with you who knows someone? You do have to try to find a back up because as we all know it is not a matter of "if" it is a matter of "when" for a child getting sick.

Your child does come first. But you do also have a job to do because your employment depends on you to serve their customers. There is a difference between having to take a day off here or there and having this be a problem frequently.

At the same time, if you really feel you can do better jobwise, it doesn't hurt to take a little time and see what else is out there for you. Did you ask your mom if there are any openings in her salon? What about the places that rent chairs and you virtually run your own business and are in charge of customer bookings yourself?

I know you feel torn and you don't have enough hours in a day. I know it is so hard to be a single mom. But I also know that where there is a will there is a way. I think that if your boss sees you are trying to have a backup plan and not be gone so much he will be more understanding.

Good luck!!

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 08-08-2006 - 9:54pm

It makes a huge difference to work for someone who is a similar position.

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