I just knew that your message would be about your exh when I saw the title ;-)
He is truly on a different planet. Changes phones and doesn't tell you the new number.
All I can say is at least you tried. It is hard for me to fathom how someone could be that way because I am not - and I know you are not.
Hopefully you get ahold of him soon - although given his past I don't think you should knock yourself out over it - maybe you can just send a postcard to him via his mother?
That is really sweet you sent the email to his parents - I am sure they appreciate such a kind deed.
Then that is it - nothing more to do with that - you have to let it go for your own sanity and so as not to upset your DS. I am sure his dad will hear from his parents. Actually, he would not be surprised when he sees/hears it - I am sure he knows you are very capable with your Nicolas and that is probably part of the reason for his apathy - he knows he cannot deal with any of it now in his life because of his issues and he knows you will. I am thinking that maybe the holidays brought out a bad time for him and he lost the phone or couldn't pay the bill.
This is probably one maddenning example of the saying, "God doesn't always give you everything you want, but he gives you everything you need."
It is great that his parents are so kind - you are very lucky for that - that they would take him the whole summer and also abide by your rule not to let exh be with ds alone.
Now where did they go wrong with him? Was there a history of drinking in his family?
I wouldn't mind trading places with you. It's better than having an obsessive ex who is at your heels with every move you make. He goes to all the parent-teacher conferences and says that I'm ruining DS's life and DS has trouble in school because he's from a broken home. Wow, fun is that?
i can totally relate to where you are coming from. my xh never got a home phone when him and his girfriend moved into their new apt. claimed they couldn't afford it. then about a month later his cell phone was shut off for nonpayment. that was in august!! i have no way to get a hold of him, short of going to his apartment.
i cannot understand how someone can manage to get themselves through life like that, but oh well. i guess somethings are not meant to be understood.
I just knew that your message would be about your exh when I saw the title ;-)
He is truly on a different planet. Changes phones and doesn't tell you the new number.
All I can say is at least you tried. It is hard for me to fathom how someone could be that way because I am not - and I know you are not.
Hopefully you get ahold of him soon - although given his past I don't think you should knock yourself out over it - maybe you can just send a postcard to him via his mother?
LOL- you *knew* it was about my ex.
That is really sweet you sent the email to his parents - I am sure they appreciate such a kind deed.
Then that is it - nothing more to do with that - you have to let it go for your own sanity and so as not to upset your DS. I am sure his dad will hear from his parents. Actually, he would not be surprised when he sees/hears it - I am sure he knows you are very capable with your Nicolas and that is probably part of the reason for his apathy - he knows he cannot deal with any of it now in his life because of his issues and he knows you will. I am thinking that maybe the holidays brought out a bad time for him and he lost the phone or couldn't pay the bill.
Sorry you have to go through this.
I'm glad that I DO have such a great relationship with his parents, they are there for me if I need them, and that's a really good feeling.
This is probably one maddenning example of the saying, "God doesn't always give you everything you want, but he gives you everything you need."
It is great that his parents are so kind - you are very lucky for that - that they would take him the whole summer and also abide by your rule not to let exh be with ds alone.
Now where did they go wrong with him? Was there a history of drinking in his family?
I wouldn't mind trading places with you. It's better than having an obsessive ex who is at your heels with every move you make. He goes to all the parent-teacher conferences and says that I'm ruining DS's life and DS has trouble in school because he's from a broken home. Wow, fun is that?
Hey alison.
i can totally relate to where you are coming from. my xh never got a home phone when him and his girfriend moved into their new apt. claimed they couldn't afford it. then about a month later his cell phone was shut off for nonpayment. that was in august!! i have no way to get a hold of him, short of going to his apartment.
i cannot understand how someone can manage to get themselves through life like that, but oh well. i guess somethings are not meant to be understood.
hang in there.
smiles and hugs.
steph
Judy,
Neither one of his parents drink really- occasional drink in the holiday season, but that's about it.