Give Deanna Some Help - ALL

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Give Deanna Some Help - ALL
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Sat, 08-11-2007 - 3:56am

Hi to all, we had a new poster with an important question in our roll call thread and I didn't want it to get overlooked. I know that so many of us have good stories and advice here. Please help!

"Hi, my name is Deanna and my husband died 15 months ago yesterday. He died from a blood clot that formed during chemotherapy and surgeries. We were married 18 years and have two great kids, Tyler (14) and Krysta )10). I am finally seeing that maybe I can have a happy life somewhere down the road. My problem is that I think I am ready to date, but any friends that we had when we were married don't come around anymore. Basically I have one friend that is married and she can't go out much. So, I don't know how to go out and meet men. I don't think I should go to bars alone, and I am alittle nervous about online. What do you guys suggest. I am so lonely for adult conversation. I just don't know how to go about this. My self esteem is so low right know because it has been 15 months and I have not been asked out once. How pathatic is that? Anyway, sorry for a long posting. Hope someone replies."

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 9:35am

I'm very sorry for your loss. I just wanted to chime in and welcome you. This is a great group of women and I'm sure you'll get lots of helpful advice here.

I've been separated for well over a year now and really haven't dated much. I have been out a few times but right now I'm not really sure what I'm looking for. I have been giving it a rest and not really looking. Dating is much different than it was in my 20's and I'm not really looking for the same things now that I was before.

So no real advice from me but I'm sure it will get easier for you.

Priscilla

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Mon, 08-13-2007 - 10:04am
Hi! Welcome to the board. I encourage you to jump on the train with the dating challenge I have set up this week. Read the thread. It really focuses on becoming more intune to yourself, your needs and self loving. Which is the main key before entering the dating scene; It's believing and loving yourself.

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