Giving up on dating

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Giving up on dating
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Mon, 12-03-2007 - 7:35pm
I am giving up on the idea of dating, I just don't have time and don't care. Thats a pretty strong sign that I am not ready. At night, I have a few guy friends that want me to call, but I really just have errands to run or go to sleep. (love sleep) and I don't really care enough to call. I like having people to talk to, but I am getting tired of talking to people who don't know me. KWIM? Like everything is an explanation.
Does that sound NUTS?
Plus there is drama with my x and I currently, and I don't want to drag anyone else down if I don't feel in the mood for a good conversation. OLD can be fun, but nerve wracking, maybe I will meet some nice guys in my classes at the university....
Hopefully there are some late bloomers there (I am NOT looking for a youngin')
Liz
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 12-03-2007 - 8:06pm

I TOTALLY understand your post and could have written it myself a few times in the past.

OLD is very draining at best - and sometimes you need to take a break. "Hide Profile" is a good option at times.

Keep us posted! Stick around in the convent and participate here - there are plenty like you who are single but need to take some time to just chill and put their lives together.

HUGS!!

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Mon, 12-03-2007 - 8:54pm

Poor Liz!

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Mon, 12-03-2007 - 10:18pm

I could use the sleep major!
Also, the biggest fear of mine is a guy getting attached to me, and I KNOW in my heart I am NOT ready for that. I would never never want to have that happen to me. I am not in a place in my life right now to be having to say, "Your really nice, but..." because they never believe it anyways.
PLUS my STBX I chose to be with based on the fact that I really could see myself raising a family with and he was great with my boys. 6 1/2 years and two more kids later, perhaps I chose wrong? And if I cant make a good choice, I guess its better to be just me.... no more harm for my kids to go through.
I go up and down, but the holiday season really has me down right now. I just cant see how a man could walk out on his wife and 4 kids after that long.... Its our first holiday separated too, so its hard.
OLD seems so superficial, and a bit risky. Even if the pic is current, what they look like IRL may not be the same. I know I am not photogenic, and I try to pic great pics, but no one looks exactly like that point in time... And I am not a superficial person at all. I would hate to choose to talk to someone based on looks alone, or someone to choose to talk to me based on looks alone.
Ugh. Just too much stuff!
I am going for my masters in Psych, so thats about 6 years of little to no dating.

I do have a crush on the guy that works at the local post office though!
I have for quite some time. He always waits on me, he even comes back from other chores to wait on me. I tell myself its because he has a crush on me too. LOL but he has seen me with kids and prob assumes I am married. :(
A gal can dream though!

Liz

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Registered: 11-25-2007
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 9:37pm

Hi, im right there with ya sister! been on and off OLD -

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 9:45am

:)
I hear ya! The kids are exhausting enough, not to mention a guy wanting attention. Its a lot.
Most days I cant imagine dragging another person into my life anyways! KWIM?

Liz