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like a glacier
| Tue, 11-21-2006 - 1:45pm |
Just wanted to post a positive update before being MIA for several days. I'll spare you the details, but "sitting back and watching the show" is working well so far. This week I'm getting all good vibes from HN. I'm almost convinced that he is definately interested in taking our friendship to a different level - that I'm not getting mixed signals - it's just that he is taking things very, very, very slow.

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Sitting back to observe is good. But still getting out and keeping options open is even better.
I got a funny email from one of the greeting card companies with a list of 10 things women do wrong when dating. The major thing that stands out in my mind is that women see a guy they really like and want and begin to think they have such a deep connection when really they don't - it is in their head. They want something in the way of a relationship the guy doesn't want and they go crazy trying to "get him".
When a guy is ready and sees you as the one he makes that very known. A guy has to be half of it - you can't will it into existance because you like him and you can't change the way he looks at you.
So in my mind, that is the reason for just sitting back and seeing if he is really into you instead of trying to make something happen that is not meant to be.
If he just stays in glacier mode for weeks and weeks, don't be afraid to say you want MORE than a glacier and write it off, too. And don't get stuck just on him. I am in the same boat as you. It is easy for me because I haven't gotten attached to mine and don't really care at this point. I really am content to just wait for the right one and am having a whole lot of fun until the right one comes along.
One thing I have also noted about myself is how does a guy really make me feel? Like I am special just the way I am - or like I have to really go out of my way to impress him and that might not be good enough? I might have erred on the latter but now I really want the former.
Keep us posted, okay?
I am attached to this friendship. I don't plan to "write that off" regardless.
I think I'm keeping options open in that I do get out and do things that I want to do. I'm also not afraid to talk to men that I don't know (like at the grocery store hardware store, etc.)
However, I'm not really interested in dating just for the sake of dating and most people I know can figure that out pretty quickly. I have two active kids, a huge extended family, an increasingly demanding career that I love, and an old house that I enjoy working on.
Without the potential for a "deep connection" dating isn't usually how I choose to spend my time away from my kids. I guess I tend to "screen" quite a bit before there's ever a date. I think that's ok as long as I don't get upset about the fact that I sometimes spend evenings alone.