Is this going anywhere?

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Is this going anywhere?
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Mon, 06-18-2007 - 9:35am

OMG I am so confused. I've been seeing this guy for over a year and things are going well most of the time. Seems like lately I am starting to see that he doesn't seem to want to make any sort of time for me outside what we try to squeeze together between work hours and kids. For instance Wednesday I was off and he didn't call me and then Thursday he didn't have to work until 4:00 in the afternoon. Wouldn't you have thought he'd have called Wednesday night to see if I wanted to do something Thursday for a little while?

Then of course there's the issue of my belongings at his house. I'm there for days at a time and I have to hide my things when the housekeeper comes. She works in the same department as we do and she cleans houses on the side. It irks me that I'm away from MY home living out of a freakin bag and it's insult to injury when I have to hide from the help!!

Am I being unreasonable?

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 06-19-2007 - 11:18pm

I know thats hard.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Tue, 06-19-2007 - 11:43pm

Sounds to me like what's important to you isn't the same as what's important to him- and that's not always a bad thing.


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Registered: 10-30-2004
Wed, 06-20-2007 - 1:57pm

It's that whole Mars Venus thing. We automatically do things for each other where as guys aren't like that as much. I'm just going to continue going about my business. I have tons of friends that always want to get together and I should enjoy the freedom that I have. I've been in other relationships where I've had to feel guilty about being with my friends, so this is different.

I really and truly think that men are just clueless, but then again I've really noticed how busy he's been. He's engrossed in this big project with his kids right now and our workplace has been a total pit of despair lately. Nobody has been getting out on time and our department has been running full speed ahead well into the wee hours of the morning.

For now I'm just going to chill out, enjoy the summer as much as possible, concentrate on my training and enjoying time with all the people in my life.

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