Going to cancel the date tonight

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Going to cancel the date tonight
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Sat, 09-18-2004 - 9:50am
I talked to the guy yesterday and even though we had been out once and had a good time I started to get into questions about what he likes to do - ambitions - those kinds of things. Since our first date was to a concert/club and his cousin and brother and some other friends were with us. Most the time we talk about our kids. To make a long story short -the few qualities I desired out of Jack that he didn't have -Rob does. And those are about it. The man doesn't read or have hobbies. He likes to play poker with his buddies, golf (I LOATHE a man who golfs) and spend time hanging out with his family. Where might i add he enjoys a little recreational smoking I might add. And I don't mean cigs.

So I am thinking hmmmm - date him because he loves his daughter and wants kids? Other than that I have nothing in common with him AT ALL! Besides that....I am so not ready. I don't want to date other people. I don't want to be with another guy. Many of you may think Jack is a weeny and he probably is but I still love him. Think I need to get over it before I can even think of dating another guy. Besides....I don't want to date another guy until he is perfect. No more trial and error crap. I am too tired for this BS.

So I am telling Rob sorry I got your hopes up but I'm not into it.

Laura

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 11:43am
The recreational smoking would put him in the pond for me. Best to listen to your inner voice.

But don't give up on dating and relationships - take time to heal and then you will be ready. And still keep your eyes open.

It is good that you are learning to be perceptive for WHAT YOU WANT and that you weed them out early.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-18-2004 - 1:57pm
I think you're right...you're not interested in dating anyone right now...if Mr. Right came to the door with a glass slipper, you would probably shut the door on his face and turn on the TV and veg and get more enjoyment out of the TV! IMHO getting out there straightaway is numbing yourself instead of dealing with the pain. Relax and focus on your family, job, the gym for now. What are you up to this weekend? Pamper yourself...do something special with your family. (((hugs)))