Good monday morn smack in the face...

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Good monday morn smack in the face...
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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 10:10am

Well remember that Ive recently posted an OLD ad on Match? Guess who else is on there...FP YUP and I got a scathing email from him...he left 2 voice mails this weekend as well but didnt have my phone.


Now hes being a real Summers Eve and not sure how to handle it. You know the worst part - when you look at our profiles and everything we are looking for its us. How do you like that?

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 10:40am

What in the world could he possibly have to send a scathing e-mail about?

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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 10:53am
Hmmm when I bought my car he helped me with the down payment. He kept cramming wanting to help down my throat. I kept saying people dont "help" without wanting something in return and what if it didnt work with us there would always be this tension...he kept saying oh no, i want to help you and DD let me...so i took him up on his offer. What a mistake, I have every intention of paying him back but keep slipping behind the 8 ball with CP and my atty...uggghhhh and now this to top it all off. I sent him one back that said i was glad to know what I cost these days and sort of disappointed I was valued so low but wondered what my trade in value is gonna be. Also told him he missed a bunch of things in his profile...ugghhhhh im pissed...it was just a d*** move on his part.
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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 2:13pm

SO now that ive called him out on everything via email (and unloaded quite a bit more of what didnt work between us and why) hes all nicey nice again and says that the money for the car was always meant as a gift...WTF


Its been a cathartic morning to say the least...

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 2:17pm

Well thats ALL you needed....FP to jump in there when you were already gun shy about OLD! Jerk!


I guess that I would just email him back and say thanks for the gift, and good luck finding the "right one" foe him. Good bye. Too bad he is holding onto his bitter pills.


Anyone else writing?

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 2:19pm

On one hand, his reply is totally lame, but on the other, at least you are no longer under the gun to repay the 'gift' back.


Just file him away, sweetie.

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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 2:31pm

Thanks...you know me and guilt though, I really wear it so well dont I?????


Theres a cute athletic cop writing me. He has young boys and we just started chatting so we shall see how it plays out. I like the fact that hes a cop...i like some cute cop butt in uniform!

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 3:36pm

Here's one for you. Dang- if a Highway patrol man wore a such tight nice fitting unifirm I would not MIND getting a ticket. Arrest me lol.


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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 4:04pm

Oh Pac...I sense there was some man candy in the pic you wanted to post and i cant see it! Ohhhhhhhhhhhh I need me some man candy!!!!!


Just my luck really LOL

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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 8:19pm
The pea brain is sooo not worth it! Just hit block!
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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 2:21pm

OK so this may get long and you will all have opinions...im open...shoot...let me hear em...cuz img freakin confused!


So FP and i had it out back and forth emailing - it is by far the most open and honest either of us has been in the almost 20 years of knowing each other. I totally shut him out this summer, Ill be the first to admit it. I was getting overwhelmed and feeling smothered. Still in a whirl from CP and much angrier and hurt than i wanted to admit. But im getting better now (actually my year anniversary of leaving yesterday...whooo hooo i need me some chocolate cake!) I have a life plan - well trying to get one in motion. Know what i want - think i do anyway and hes still in it for the long haul. We talked on the phone last night for a good 2 hours then he emailed more last night and this morning. Im impressed with his commitment to grow. All while i keep bringing up how he never wanted to settle down and have kids, get married yada yada. He said we were on different pages back then, our relationship was rocky (i dont remember it being rocky but im sure it was - i was 19) So really long story short - we may try it yet again. He actually suggested we try to date via email for a little bit since we communicate so much better in writing - and hes right.


So I will keep you all posted.


As for the 2K for the car downpayment he said he was hurt and lashed out at me and that it was a gift and always meant as one for me and DD to get back on our feet....(IM STILL

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