Good new ideas for first date locations

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Good new ideas for first date locations
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Sat, 07-05-2008 - 2:30pm

I am reading How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with you by Leil Lowndes and cant put it down. Very interesting stuff.


The author says that dinner or coffee is NOT a good first date location. "when planning a first date, find out what pulls your Quarry's strings, then plan an arousing, emotional experience...a little early shared anxiety is a proved aphrodisiac".


She follows up with several studies that support this. The studies suggest a shared risk brings people closer together and gives them a common bond. That adreniline thing.


As far as I am concerned, dont take me to coffee for a first date. Dont put me through a half hour interview making me prove why I should be your next life partner. Lets go have some fun. Surfing, rock wall climbing, a rock concert, scary movie, something fun. Then lets continue to do things fun together while getting to know each other.


Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 10-24-2006
Sat, 07-05-2008 - 4:26pm
I agree. When I was a teen and early adult, I remember the amusement park being my fave first date. The thrill of rides, excuse to grab onto my date. Good stuff!!

 

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sat, 07-05-2008 - 4:46pm

I think activities are good - places and things to do that generate good conversation - go for a walk, play minigolf, go to a waterpark, go on a hike, ride a bike, have a glass of wine in an outdoor cafe or neat place, take a look at art - stuff like that - so you don't sit there board just interviewing each other.

Is this for RG? Or for someone new? ;-)

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 07-05-2008 - 4:51pm

Doing something fun sounds great in theory for a first date but for me I don't want to be stuck with someone that I don't like while trying to have fun. My experience gets spoiled with the wrong person with me.

On the other hand, I get sick of coffee and glass-of-wine first dates. I have offered to do a dog walk as first dates. I also have "risked" dinner and concerts as first dates as well.

I had one first date at the woman's Kundalini yoga class. That turned into one of the best relationships I ever had.

Mark





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