Good weekend on this end and also a ?

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Good weekend on this end and also a ?
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Mon, 10-27-2008 - 4:50pm
Spent the weekend w/ Mechanic again, mostly just hanging out, with movies, nachos, wings etc. I joked with him "have you gained any weight since we started dating?" and he said "yes, its the damn nachos & wings" (he like salads lol) and he asked "have you?" and I said "A lady never tells. But hold that thought while I loosen the button on my jeans, they're killing me" And its true, I have gained prolly 5 lbs which I'm not loving. But onto the fun part of the weekend, it was good, almost too good. I'm wondering if we're settling into a "comfortable zone" already which I'd hate to happen really. Can anyone relate? We shouldn't be anywhere near this point. We love to spend time together, but I don't want to feel like we're playing house. OK, enough complaining about the great guy.

 

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 5:54pm

Funny you should mention "playing house" so early on in a relationship... I have recently had this conversation with some girlfriends who are 2-3 months into new relationships. It seems we've all just clicked into what we're calling Domestic Bliss Mode, instead of the "courting" we're used to. One of my friends (she's in her late 40's & her SO is in his early 40's) just went on their 2nd official date last weekend. They've been inseperable for nearly 2 months but hadn't really been on the next date since the first one (they were actually acquaintences for months prior to that first date). Anyway...


Does it mean we (as liberated, independent, successful women) have lowered our expectations and let these guys get away with not "dating" us first? Or does it mean we've found such

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 11:33am
Well Mechanic is more than willing to go out on dates, for the most part its been a failure to find babysitters. Since my kids are so young (6, 4 & 2) I'm reluctant to leave them with a sitter unless I've already tucked them into bed etc. I had one sitter (used him only a couple times) put a 10pm curfew on me LOL How fun is that when I don't leave the house until 7:30? But yes, I think that has a lot to do with it. Because the dating part isn't happening, and we're forced to have our movie dates here at the house, it doesn't really feel like dating. More like playing house. Mechanic is being wonderful. Sometimes I feel like he's "too wonderful" but I also wonder if I'm subconsciously trying to "find something wrong" with him. Which would be horrible. I completely understand the question you pose tho. 100%. Thank you for responding.

 

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Tue, 10-28-2008 - 1:41pm

Dont feel too bad about the weight. I always gain when I am just starting out with a new guy. Its all the fun, food and good times. But dont worry it will go away. Just rearrange your fun times to include the gym or something.

Enjoy. BTW the comfortable zone is good too. I like it better myself.

Laurie

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Tue, 10-28-2008 - 11:36pm
Maybe we are settling. I've notice I live so much for the little things because the big things are too outrageous to expect. I also slept with Duck Fan a lot sooner than I would have. It's an interesting thought.
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