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Sun, 09-12-2004 - 9:48am

Well I am no longer pregnant-- and I am not so sure its a bad thing for me. It was unplanned pregnancy and i terrilbly sick and stressed out trying to deal with it all the time-- trying to figure out how to have a baby when my boysfreind and I have 5 kids put together already and well -- we were still working torwards a firmer commitment-- both of us were sad that this would force us to move faster than what we were ready for--we are also recently divorced (with in last 2 years) so jumping into all of this was huge...well anyway yesterday morning all that changed...i lost the baby. So we are sad but in a way feel its for the best.


As to the good well today is our year anniversary of our first date and we do plan to celebrate in some way. :)


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mbfun
Sun, 09-12-2004 - 10:39am
I'm sorry for your loss. It probably is for the best. This happens pretty commonly, and usually there's something not ok with the baby, so it is for the best. But it's still a loss.

I miscarried twice at least..once at 3 months and once at 4 months. The doctor said it happens more often than most people think. With my next two pregnancies I didn't tell anyone till I was 5 months along.

Take care of yourself and happy anniv.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mbfun
Sun, 09-12-2004 - 11:29am
so sorry for your loss (((big hugs))) even though the timing was off, and there was a lot of drama, there was that part of you that wanted this baby. I can't wait to hear what you did to celebrate your big day!!
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Registered: 05-25-2004
In reply to: mbfun
Sun, 09-12-2004 - 3:20pm
A big hug for you - I am sorry to hear of your loss. I know the unexpected news threw you for a loop at first but you handled it so well and I know you wanted the baby. I hope you are okay now and will keep in touch with all of us. You were so kind to share all of your stories and we all enjoyed hearing them and cheering you on.
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Registered: 10-18-2003
In reply to: mbfun
Sun, 09-12-2004 - 4:58pm

I am SOO sorry!!

Kim

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: mbfun
Sun, 09-12-2004 - 5:53pm
I am sorry MaryBeth - everything works out how it should though. You made good choices about this. I am sorry that you lost the baby. I know that it hurts no matter what the circumstance (((((HUG)))

Laura

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Registered: 04-06-2004
In reply to: mbfun
Mon, 09-13-2004 - 10:28am
Mary Beth,

I am so sorry for your loss. I know that you feel this is for the best, and for that Im glad that it all worked out. I hope that you are as ok with this as you seem. If not, know that we are all here for you if you need to talk. Its never easy losing a baby-even if it was unplanned.

On another note- I hope you had a good trip!

Stacey

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Registered: 07-29-2003
In reply to: mbfun
Mon, 09-13-2004 - 10:58am
Mary Beth,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss! Hugs to you! I agree with everyone that has posted so far....things happen for a reason.

Your in my prayers!

Lori

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: mbfun
Mon, 09-13-2004 - 11:08am
MaryBeth, I am very sorry to hear this. Unplanned or not, it's still sad to lose a little bit of yourself and future that way. As you said, this may be for the best. I hope you're doing well and stay upbeat. Big hugs. Don't be a stranger!
Becky

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: mbfun
Mon, 09-13-2004 - 8:52pm

Marybeth!


I am so sorry for your loss.

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Registered: 04-21-2003
In reply to: mbfun
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 10:37am
I'm sorry for your loss Mary Beth. I know it was a difficult situation you were in being pregnant and not knowing if BF would ever accept it. I'm just glad you are okay and feeling alright with it. Everything happens for a reason and it was just not the right time for you two. Like you said, the commitment was not strong enough. Just love each other and you will both get throught this easier.

Mel

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