got another message from Ozzy

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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 6:12pm

Help me stay grounded....

I got another text message from Ozzy today... is this normal or should i be creeped out?

He said, "hey, had a great time last night. i'm on lunch now, just thought i'd say hello and i hope your meeting goes well. hopefully, you thought of me too. i should be off around 4, so if youre free or just want to talk. ill be here awaiting."

right now, i wish i could do a background check before getting involved.. kwim.

Loonybunny

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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 6:44pm

I think it sounds sweet but if

April

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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 7:05pm

thanks for your reply.. i do feel like he's moving too fast.. not physically fast but he's moving emotionally fast... he sent me another text message around 6 pm... and i replied saying i'm still at work (i work til 8).

And is this sabotaging thoughts... I still think about other men... Like Leo, Alaska, Sean, etc. I kinda feel like since i'm leaving, then i should indulge myself in at least one of these fine men... (i know... bad thoughts.) But i'm thinking of that no-strings-attached-animal-lustful night.... (not that i would do it ;-) i need a cold shower. LOL.

Loonybunny

ps where's the cold shower icon.

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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 7:10pm

I need a cold shower tonight too!

April

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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 9:39pm

Well, the dear boy is INTO you!! LOL!!

Do you like him? Maybe just keep the texting thing going if you are not ready to talk on the phone just yet?

Edited to add: It just figures when you accept a great job offer THEN a good one comes along!! LOL!! When do you move?




Edited 2/4/2008 10:44 pm ET by cl-west1745
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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 10:04am

I move at the end of the month... Feb 28th... HR didn't call me yesterday so i'm hoping they call today...

Ozzy texted me a little after 8 last night saying " you must really be working hard. but that's a good thing"... and then again.. "hurry up and get off work." at 8:45.

So, when as i was leaving work, I called him... he admitted he was nervous about scaring me off or boring me on Sunday night... And i let him know where i'm coming from and that's a psycho ex husband. (Sometimes i'm too honest) but i said, if i seem cautious that's why... And he described his ex as psycho too.. So I'm a little cautious about the pattern i see, but i'll try not to overthink at this point.

I like his response though, he wasn't defensive, he just said i hope you see for yourself that i'm not a psycho. In fact, he said, he was a gentlemen (prob referring to not trying to kiss or grope me on Sunday night.)

Before the end of our conversation he invited me out again.. perhaps karaoke at a new place. And said he'd call me "to get his fix".... i guess meaning he likes talking to me.

Loonybunny

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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 10:59am

You are tooo funny! On one hand, you are always trying to

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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 11:53am

>>Finally, a guy comes along that seems genuinely interested and you suddenly want to do a background check because he sent you two texts? Don't you think that is a little extreme?<<

thanks for your opinion...lol.. i was waiting for someone to tell me I was overreacting...

So far, everyone who has met him, has had nice things to say.... I suppose I knew I still had the demons from my psycho ex... and i guess they will come out when i meet a guy who is interested.

I was totally fooled with my ex who turned out to be abusive AND a stalker AND a drug addict. My ex talked about a crazy exgirlfriend who pressed charges.. and while everyone around me warned me not to get involved... I bought HIS SIDE of the story and it nearly destroyed me. And I was very fortunate to recover (and i'm not being dramatic).... And after that i thought... if only i did a background check or credit check FIRST....

But I don't want to live in the past... I'm just getting out my feelings and believing I am FREE.

One day at a time.

Loonybunny

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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 12:11pm

ps where's the cold shower icon.


LOL!


Sounds like Ozzy moves quicker than you on the emotional attachment side. If you're getting the vibes that he's too fast,

~Pacific~
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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 12:14pm
It's ok to be cautious, just don't over react. Listening is an important factor for red flags. If you come across someone warning you about him or if you want to get more serious, I highly recommend a check, but not just with any guy that winks at you darlin! He's just on cloud nine for meeting a hottie like you!