Got A Question....Please Help...lol!

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Got A Question....Please Help...lol!
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Mon, 04-18-2005 - 8:21pm

I'm 24 with a 19 month old daughter. I've been divorced for a while but have recently started dating. The guy I'm seeing is 12 years older than me and he has a five year old daughter. Here's the thing....I'm not usually a shy person, or nervous around the opposite sex for that matter. However, everytime I am around this man and become so totally nervous that my palms start sweating and I just feel flustered. I really really like this guy. He is so sweet and nice, but I just don't know how to overcome this nervous thing I'm going through. I think it's b/c he's so different from the other guys that I've dated. I mean, he's a MAN not a BOY....and I think that makes a difference. He probably knows what he wants and I feel nervous b/c I don't want to come off as some immature girl. He tells me that he really enjoys spending time with me and that I act older than I am, etc., which makes me happy, but I still can't seem to get over whatever I'm going through with this relationship. He's a very easy going guy and not pushy at all. We've kissed a few times, but only little pecks, and I think that he's waiting for me to make some kind of move, but I get so embarrassed that I just can't. What's the deal with me? Is this normal?

Thanks,
Kait

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 8:38pm

Hello!! Welcome!

I think that is normal - just try to be yourself - he likes you for you. The butterflies will get better with time.

Enjoy this new time together - and let "the moves" happen naturally - maybe with him more in the lead - but never further than you want to go.

Keep us posted - we hope you hang around!!

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 9:00pm

Guys are still boys at 36. I'm 34 yrs old and the men that are my age still seem very immature to me. However, my 41 yo boyfriend does seem like a man to me and he makes me feel giddy sometimes...like a teenager again. So, yeah, any age difference can do that to you.

Enjoy the butterflies. Let him initiate deeper kisses. Smile and be confident. He probably feels lucky that a 24 yo would even consider dating him.