Great 1st date with a guy from Match.com

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Great 1st date with a guy from Match.com
4
Tue, 08-08-2006 - 3:54am
Eye roll is b/c it figures

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 08-08-2006 - 7:16pm

If it was me I would not do it. But that is because I have had the experience of dating a lot of people online. I have found that they want all the romance and sex and warmth of a relationship but their lives are a rocky base at best. Everything is all about the divorce they are going through.

If you don't mind being a "going through the divorce" buddy - it is okay - but if you really want someone who is into you and who is ready to put you and the relationship first then I would pass.

The thing is that he is still married and living with his wife and kids. Timing is everything.

It is good that he is honest - maybe you can be just a friend for now?

You will have luck - you have to believe you will find the right person and you have to wait for him.

At any rate, no matter what you decide, keep us posted!

signature
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2006
Tue, 08-08-2006 - 8:24pm
My thoughts are this: The first guy is a potential, bu still married. What if you kept in touch, but lightly, until things were more settled in his life? Maybe don't really form a "relationship", but instead agree to do fun things together, since you seem to share a lot of the same interests. Once his divorce is final, he's out of the house, and has his feet back on the ground, maybe a relationship could develop. In the meantime, don't wait around for him!
On that note, I think Carlos is another excellent prospect. I agree that I don't like to wait too long before I meet, if I'm interested enough to meet. I really feel like you can tell so much about a person in person- and there's no denying that chemistry plays a role- and you just can't fake that in person!
Also- I found it really interesting that a former prospect led you to him! Who knew that guys talked about dating? I'm not sure I know any guys (well, actually I know 1, to be exact) who would admit to trying online dating to his friends. Obviously, many, many people do it, for a variety of reasons, but men seem to have a hang-up about not being able to get a girl without using the internet. Like they aren't cool enough or something to be able to get one in person. That's just my own observation, and I'm impressed, anyhow.
So, let us know, either way, what happens!
Moody

Powered by CGISpy.com
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 08-08-2006 - 8:59pm

Oh, I would not get at ALL overly involved with the "seperated" guy, Kevin at this point. No way.

Photobucket

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 08-08-2006 - 9:37pm

Hi Rebecca!

Photobucket