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| Thu, 11-11-2004 - 4:00pm |
But, I'm not taking it too seriously. I figure if something comes of it, then that's fine. If not, it's okay too. I'm trying a lot of other things as well to meet people in the real world.
I was avoiding online because that's where I met my most recent boyfriend, but I decided that I shouldn't let him put me off from trying it again. He kind of made jokes that we met "online". His jokes really embarrassed me. It was like our relationship was less than it was because we met online. I mean, in the beginning, it is different when you meet that way. After a while though, it becomes irrelevant that you met that way.

I've never understood the stigma that comes from meeting online, whether it be a friend or a boyfriend or what. I am trying to plan a trip to meet two female friends, and whenever anyone asks how I know them and I respond "I met them on a message board" they suddenly look very concerned and ask "you met them ONLINE?????" As if I just said "Oh, you know, I was arrested one night and three of us were in jail in the holding cell together all weekend, and we just REALLY hit it off!" So silly!
Mindy
http://cosmosandcranium.blogspot.com/
I met my current boyfriend online. I used to think about how I'd feel telling people the way that we met, and I might feel embarrased about it. Now I don't think it matters either. People can think what they want, if I'm happy in the relationship then how we met does not matter.
And it allows you to pre-screen your dates for compatibility. :)
I am hoping you keep us informed of your adventures - I love to hear about those. A few of my friends send links to profiles and it is always fun to see those and to hear the stories.
Feel free to do the same with us here!!
How fun!!
The guys who have winked at me, each have something wrong with them or they didn't post a picture. One of the guys who winked seemed like a player. I haven't winked back to any of them. Let the guy pay for a subscription and send a darn email. Listen to me, I'm old fashioned about online dating LOL.
But my fingers are crossed for you and I am waiting to hear adventures as they unfold. I am really good at critiquing a profile if you want to send the URL!! My friends always email them to me so I can find the "bugs" so to speak.
Let's see - a few of my favorite deal breakers:
"he doesn't want a woman with kids"
"he puts 'will tell you later' about his relationship status or children status"
"he is separated"
"he smokes"
"he travels all the time for work"
"he has a motorcycle" (I believe that is a no-no for a single mom but others may argue)
"he is married"
"he is agnostic"
"he drinks like a fish"
"he shows creepy pictures of himself with scant clothing - in underwear, etc."
Maybe I am burned out from online dating? I don't think I can have an open mind for the 40+ divorced set anymore......
Actually, yesterday at lunch, me and my girlfriend were talking about on-line dating, and I told her I was thinking about giving it a try, and I wanted her opinion. She was all for it, but she's pretty open-minded. Now my sister, on the other hand, was totally against it (of course, she has no clue what dating is like -- she's been married for 15 years). I decided to give it a try, but I'm going to wait a while for a couple of reasons: (1) I'm kind of burned out on dating right now and need a break; (2) After this last relationship went south, I came of with a list of things I wanted to accomplish in the next couple of months. I have a spare room in my basement that's filled with junk. I'm going to clean it out and paint, and it can be an "office", and I got a desk from my BIL that I'll put in there. After I get my income tax money, I should be able to afford a computer, and I can put it in my new "office". So, once I get a computer, I will defintely check out on-line dating. It's just going to take a while, but that's ok. I have enough to keep me busy in the meantime.
Please keep us posted on how it goes for you.
Donna
A good rule of thumb…people tend to think they can get away with a lot more online than in person…they feel a degree of safety about being less “reserved” over the internet than if they were meeting you in person on the street. It’s like they’ve skipped a step…the first impression.
So my theory is that what you’re seeing is who they truly are intensified by the safety of the internet. The true personality which would take a bit longer to manifest itself if you met under more traditional means…perhaps you wouldn’t see this behavior until the 3rd, 4th, 5th date…when he’s feeling more comfortable with you.
If your first online impression about a guy is that he is too bold, too pushy, too nasty, too “friendly”, too anything before you get a chance to meet him in person, skip him, plain and simple.