"GULP" I did it...and im sick...

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"GULP" I did it...and im sick...
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Thu, 09-11-2008 - 9:29am

Sooooo its been a year and im feeling good about everything. With some prodding from family I think im ready to really put myself out there...so i paid for a 1 month (ouch! cant believe i actually committed to it) subscription to match.com. I only signed up for a month because im just testing the waters right now, maybe im not ready but how am i going to knwo...right???


WE SHALL SEE....I will keep you all posted


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Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 2:30pm
SOOOOOO I sent a wink...ok so he lives a state away but i sent a wink...LOL OMG almost vomited in my mouth a little after but phewwww its out of the way, guess i can cancel my subscription now...LOL
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Registered: 08-28-2008
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 2:37pm

M, you're hilarious!


OK you got one winkie out of the way. Now I have an assignment for you. Email one interesting guy within 50 miles of you. Not a come on or anything- just something of a conversation opener that might make him write back. Like Hey, I noticed that bird in the tree behind you. By it's peculiar behavior I think it must be

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Fri, 09-12-2008 - 2:55pm

LOL tooo funny Pac. I actually had to run to my bosses house before and work on her computer for her and i was chewing my lip thinking "ohh man I cant believe i sent a wink...ugghhh what if he doesnt respond back" and then I saw them...the oyster catchers are here for the fall LOL See I dont need OLD as long as I have my binoculars in the car and there are birds to watch...LOL


Will try to work up the nerve and report back on monday.


M


P.S. CS just called and wants some "adult time" this weekend and I sort of feel guilty for putting an ad on line. We are just friends but i still feel awkward about it. I was never one for dating more than one at time...UMMM Im not even dating one at the moment....for cryin out loud i really do have issues dont i? dont answer that!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 2:55pm

From my experience and from I've have culled from being a reader of the Online Dating board is that most men just look at the pictures and the woman's age and don't really read the profile too much.


I am a veteran of OLD (on and off for 8 plus years).

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 3:05pm
thank you Mark....grammer (bad grammer) and spelling were never really my fortay...making the corrections now. I get what you are saying...about the chemistry. I think thats why I never wanted to try it before.Im an instant chemistry type of person. its either their or its not, for me it will not grow. Someone once told me its the Scorpio in me. I try not to get to far into astrology and the meaning behind things....i find it opens up way more cans of worms than one person needs on a daily basis...any way tanks a bunch loads makin da changes now yo
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Sat, 09-13-2008 - 12:17am

I can so empathize with you! I remember the day I decided to get back out there and parted with a fair amount of money for match.com the first time. I felt sick too.


Rest assured, I haven't regretted a dime of that. I met some great guys on there...many I am still friends with. Met some real losers too, but it helped hone my dating skills. And...I met the most amazing man in the world on there. If I hadn't taken that step and signed up, I never would have met him...and he only lives 15 miles from me!!! How ironic!


One note-Don't expect it to work overnight. I did and was let down at first. Then I started dating a few of the guys. After a while, I got the hang of it and look where I am today! I have found a kindred spirit who has every potential to be so much more in my life!


Good luck!


Almalibra

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Sat, 09-13-2008 - 12:03pm

Good for you for going out on a limb and taking a chance with OLD. I did have decent success with Match but not at first. Shrimpy is right, it is a marketing thing. I found I had better success, and got responses from the kind of guys I wanted to attract (rather than the players) when I totally changed the way I wrote my profile. When I had the typical list of what I want and who I am, Mark is right, guys obviously did not read it. But when I illustrated my statements with anecdotes I got a much better response, guys actually read it and referred to things in my profile when they sent that initial e-mail. Example: Instead of saying I am an optimist and look for the humor in adversity, I wrote about how I skidded on the ice on my most recent ski trip and crashed my car. It was a funny story the way I told it. The next guy to respond was also an avid skier and drove that same road many times. He was the first guy I met on Match that there was any chemistry with and I had more than the meet and great date with.

Yes, the spelling and grammar count, errors just don't paint you in a good light. Have someone who is good with writing check out your profile before you post it. Or we'll help out here. And I recall West had a good idea with OLD profiles the last time she updated hers. She wrote about what she had to offer not what she was looking for, what benefit to the guy dating her would be. It was clever.

Good luck

QB

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 09-14-2008 - 7:21pm

I have a love-hate thing going on with OLD. I do agree that most guys probably don't read most of the profile, cause that would explain why I keep getting winks from guys who are SO wildly not my type. I have an age limit and I stick to it (I have a really young mom...if the guy is closer to her age than mine, it just grosses me out). Men lie extensively about their age...it's just shocking how many think they pass for 42 when they look 62.

There is a guy on one site who keeps emailing me for a date. Like he wants the date NOW, this very minute. And he can't understand why I don't get back to him...my profile says all over I HAVE TWO KIDS...I figure if he is on the computer all the time, too scary.

On the other hand, I have had some decent dates, though they didn't lead anywhere, it was at lest an enjoyable evening. But then again, I met this guy currently causing my angst on line!

But don't give up. Be in charge. Think of it as "man shopping". I email all the time. Get a response about 20 percent of the time, some are idiots, some seem ok, so look at it as a hobby, not a job.

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Mon, 09-15-2008 - 10:46am

OK Sooooo I updated my profile...




Edited 9/15/2008 1:22 pm ET by mom_little_star
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 1:22pm
I like it, it made me laugh, LOL.
 

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