Gulp..I did it..I need to know I suppose

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Gulp..I did it..I need to know I suppose
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Tue, 04-15-2008 - 11:40pm

Ok..I just emailed my "friend" and asked about us..


Email..short and to the point"Is this a FWB type of thing?" That's it and then hit sent.


Was that to forward?


So new to this thing and I wonder if I should have said can we talk...but.....I know how guys RUN when they hear that statement.


I'm sad now....


Ok...how do I get the red flag to go away??




Edited 4/15/2008 11:40 pm ET by notjust_mom

~Karen
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Wed, 04-16-2008 - 12:30am

Well that is one way to do it. LOL!! :-)

Don't worry - you are right to want to know. And side stepping all around the issue and not asking is not going to change what it is - only he knows what it is.

It is better to know sooner rather than later. I mean how would you feel if he wants to take a break or date someone else in a year? Or maybe this is an opportunity for him to explain he wants something serious with you but didn't know how to bring it up?

Don't be sad - be glad you are putting yourself first. The right guy for you WILL want to talk because you will make his little heart go pitter patter and he will be INTO you and he will NOT want to share! That is how it is when they have a romantic interest and want a relationship with you. I am hoping it is this way with him - but if not then NEXT. You have to figure out if a guy just wants a roll in the hay with a warm body or if he really has feelings for you - and the only way is to carefully observe from the beginning if he is romantic and interested or just horny. Now you have learned an important lesson - and you will negotiate and communicate before you roll next time. Or maybe this time?

Keep us posted - fingers are crossed here!

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Wed, 04-16-2008 - 12:57am

I think this move could be totally brilliant.

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Wed, 04-16-2008 - 1:52am

Thanks...You are right, it's better to know now than later.

~Karen
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Wed, 04-16-2008 - 1:56am

YES!! BRILLIANT!!! Hmmmmmm........he will have to respond.. Since we talk daily! But if he doesn't respond in the next day or two, I'll have my answer right???


I'm worth it!! Keep your fingers crossed...


I will be checking my emails...probably hrly....sheesh...sound a little needy??? LOL........


Thanks

~~Tiny

~Karen
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Wed, 04-16-2008 - 10:04am

Needy?

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Wed, 04-16-2008 - 11:11am

Now you've got me on the edge of my seat too....lol... i understand how you feel ... it is scary when we put our hearts out there..... if you are working today... perhaps concentrate extra hard on busy work to keep your mind off of things while you wait for his response... keep thinking of the positives.. You've gotten back out there... you are a beautiful women who is fun to be around.... if this doesn't work out, move on to the next... every experience is a wonderful one.... (and i say that from the school of hard knocks, too, but i still have a positive attitude)..... and if this relationship does continue to work out....