Guy needs advise ... please :)

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Registered: 08-11-2003
Guy needs advise ... please :)
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Tue, 08-10-2004 - 10:24am
Hi there. Well, I'm hoping the single mothers out there can help me out. I would really love to date and get to know this girl I've become pretty friendly over the past 5 months. She's a single mom, and I see her maybe 1-2 times a week (just for an hour or two). Now, I think there is "something there" between us, and personally want to take it to the next level (dinner, a movie, etc.). But here's my problem. She recently, and candidly, told me that there is another guy that's been constantly asking her out, but she's afraid to date right now, so she always declines. That, obviously, puts me off a bit. Actually, stopped me in my tracks. Now, I understand her hesitations, but not sure what to do. So, I guess my question to this forum is how to make this girl comfortable with wanting to go out and date again (preferably me) :)

OK, here's something I'm thinking about doing ...

One thing that I know REALLY made her smile was my remembering her son's birthday. He turns 4 this week. Now, I plan to buy him a little something (a fun toy), but I also plan to write his mom a little letter letting her know that I would love to get to know her better ... when she's ready ... to take her out to dinner, etc. What do you guys think of this approach?

Any advise would be GREATLY appreciated. Thank you all so much.

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Registered: 08-11-2003
Wed, 08-11-2004 - 7:07pm
I guess there is not perfect formula for "success". We're all different and view certain gestures differently. I just hope she takes my little gesture for what it's really worth ... that I'm just a really nice guy who sincerely cares about her happiness and someone who really wants to get to know her better. Period. Hopefully that will be enough for her to want to get to know me better.

Keep you all posted. Thanks again ...

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Registered: 08-11-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 10:08am
Hi there. Well, package delivered. Went well last night as she was all smiles (and had kind things to say). Was not, from my perspective, a "turn-off". Whew. She even gave me a little "peck" on the cheek when I left. So, we'll see what happens next week when I see her again. Thanks again for all of the input.

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