Like this guy..do I stop OLD?

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Registered: 10-08-2005
Like this guy..do I stop OLD?
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Mon, 08-28-2006 - 9:58pm

So I started dating this guy last week. I like him a lot....we have great chemistry, we can sit and talk, or just be quiet, he's very affectionate like me. I've been chatting on-line with another guy who I haven't met yet, but we seem compatible as well.

I like the first guy a lot, but nothing has been said (because it's way too early) about exclusive dating. Do I keep my options open?? or stop chatting with the other guy on-line?

Also, can anyone answer a question for me? The first guy was telling me about a conversation with one of his male friends..his friend told him that he knew a mutual aquaintance who was now single & suggested that this guy go out with her....and he TOLD ME THIS telling me how funny it was. What does that mean?? also obviously, he hasn't told his friend about me :(

Thanks for any advice

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 10:25pm

I think if you want to be exclusive, you have to tell him that. Maybe he told you that story to test your reaction because he feels the same way.
maybe he also knows it's early in the relationship but wants to now what your feelings are about dating or seeing other people.
If you want to see the other guy, or just continue to talk to him, there's certainly nothing wrong with that!
I would (but this is just me) continue to talk to both of them, date both of them, until I was sure which one I liked, and boundaries had been set. I would also be honest if asked if I was dating other people, as I'm an honest person, but I'm not sure I would volunteer the information, unless I wanted to know the same info about the men... which, really, I probaby would. Because I'm honest AND nosy.

Moody- who wishes she had time to develop and interest in multiple men again!


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Mon, 08-28-2006 - 10:34pm

Thanks for your input, I appreciate it. I think that the problem is, I really like the first guy, but am afraid of getting hurt....therefore if I keep my options open, maybe if things don't work out with the first guy at least I won't get as hurt.

can't someone make this dating stuff easier??