Guys and Their Head Games, ARGH!
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| Mon, 05-05-2008 - 3:26am |
Most of this is just a vent but if any of you have been there done that then feel free to jump right in.
Why cant men just come out and say what they are thinking?!If they had a good time on a date but have no interest in future dating then why dont they just say it like it is instead of stringing us along. I feel like I am being strung along by several men. One of which has been my friend for years and is much older than me. Dont people just get to an age where they just say whats on their mind? I know I did.
The other has been my good friend for over a year. I am falling in love with him but I feel like I am on his back burner while he waits to see what else comes along. My common sense says dont get emotionally involved but my heart is already emotionally involved.
The third man is 47 and is playing obvious head games. If he calls me up and I cant talk at the time for some reason then its guaranteed that when I call him back he will not be available to talk (payback).
I am 45 years old and so done with playing the head games.
Laurie

I know youre just venting - but - you dont HAVE to play, or accept, the head games.
"One of which has been my friend for years and is much older than me. Dont people just get to an age where they just say whats on their mind? I know I did." - Yes, I am MUCH more there,
Oh I know I know. My common sense says dump them all immediately. What I was wondering is there any guy out there that doesnt play these games? Please tell me that there are some out there that are honest, up front and speak their mind.
Laurie
There are men who are up front and won't play the games. And if a man is REALLY into you, and cares for you- the games go out the window. So as long as you are sensing the games, then don't latch on to these men, and keep moving on.
IMO though- don't move on without TALKING to them about what is bugging you, if you think there is enough good stuff there to keep. How would they know that it bugs you, if you don't mention it to them? They may think "this is how to treat women you like" because they hear stuff from their man friends. But if that's not how YOU want to be treated, then let him/them know! If they don't care to adjust their behaviors once they know better how you like being treated, then they are just not the right one for you. I'm not saying that you should try to CHANGE the men... just that they might not even have a clue that anything they are doing is bugging you, so they will keep on doing it.
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Honest, upfront, and speak our minds? I have found most people (male or female) do not speak their minds or honest because of the fear of the reaction/response they may get. This is a "survival" behavior isn't it? How many of us are told that what we have said hurts the other's feelings (and visa versa)? This does not encourage honesty or being upfront.
That is why I want to have a relationship with a self aware woman for part of that consciousness is owning their feelings and hot buttons.
BTW Laurie, how about your phone number ;-)?
Mark who is still wandering around in the desert of relationships looking for water
We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb
Mark,
I have a feeling you are one of the ones who speaks their mind. Am I right? My grandma was too and I always admired her for that and I wasn't the only one who did.
I just emailed you.
Laurie
I agree that you have to be clear about your expectations so there's no misunderstandings.
I work on speaking from my heart which I make the distinction from speaking my mind.
Of course a lot of guys speak from other parts of their bodies more *smirk*
Mark
ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Aren't you the FUNNY one today?