Had a nice time.....
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| Wed, 04-18-2007 - 12:25pm |
So Hotty Richard and I got together last night and had a nice time. Not amazing but a nice time. We couldn't decide what to do really... he didn't have a plan and I didn't either. So finally, i suggested karaoke at a relatively quiet bar. My idea was that we'd be able to talk, play pool and I'd be able to sing... perhaps impress him with a good song....
I hate not knowing if he actually enjoyed himself. Yadayada... the most frequent question us ladies have after a date.
Yes, he still looked good but I controlled myself and didn't stare.... I enjoyed our conversations. He bought all my drinks (two) and paid for the pool table. I thought things were going well.... I was actually doing pretty good at pool, too. And I think that's why his mood changed a bit. He couldn't make a shot. Maybe he was embarrased. I still lost though, because I scratched on the eightball.
How did it end....? a hand shake. Hmmm, I was disappointed. I thanked him for coming out, since he drove farther than me. He said call him tonight when he's on the road... (He's taking a roadtrip for work and visiting his sister while he's there.....) He said since I'm the busier one that I could call him when I have a free moment. And he's right, I won't answer the phone with the kids around... but it still would be nice to get a voice mail and know that he's thinking of me or waiting for me to call.
Yesterday, after our brief lunch phone call, he asked me to call him when I got off work.... and since after work I have to pick up all the kids, I didn't get a chance to call til 7 pm. He said he was waiting by the phone practically. Wow, and to think, I almost didn't call back. I almost chickened out. And even though his friends were also going out, he told them he was going to hang out with me. Those were all good things, but no kiss goodnight? Am I overthinking that.... or could he kinda only see me as a friend? I know, only time will tell....
He did admit that he's only recently back in the dating scene because he was in a 3.5 yr engagement. Listen to me, I'm making excuses for him... :-( Oh well, I do have a busy life, so hopefully, I won't over analyze. If he calls me, then I'll know, right?
Opinions... should I call him tonight while he's driving like he asked .... or don't and just make him sweat it out?
LB

Well...since he is sooooo HOT - I say definitely call him! I think that you might have the chance to get into some good conversation and feel him out a wee bit. What is he looking for etc etc. Even if you don't talk about the two of you, you will get a good idea of how he thinks and that might provide some insight as to why no good night kiss. That would leave me a little cold as well. But yes ...I think you should call him tonight.
Rose
If you want to call him that is fine since he asked. If he says that again I might be inclined to tell him to call me.
Sounds like you had fun with him to start - and it will be good to see what he does over time. He sounds like he is just getting back into the dating scene - which could be a good thing. Keep us posted!
I have had a seemingly wonderful date end without any type of embrace. I've also had horrid dates try to end it with a passionate kiss, and it was patently obvious I wasn't the only one not enjoying myself at the time. I prefer somewhere in between, but maybe he's old fashioned or didn't want you to feel rushed. Or maybe he's not that into you. Only time will tell.
As far as calling him or not, I think if you're not too busy and it isn't too late, go ahead. Otherwise, don't. One thing I would caution you against is over thinking. Simply go with this for a while, and see if something develops. The decision to call or not should be fairly simple- if you're busy don't, if you aren't go ahead.
One more thing- don't make excuses for anyone. Either they are a match or they aren't. If the things you feel like making excuses about are things you can live with, there's no need. If they aren't, you're simply overlooking red flags, which will cause you pain in the long run.
Good luck, and let us know what you decide.
Moody, who probably would be too busy to call
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Follow up.... I was fairly busy last night, so I didn't call.... but when I woke up this morning I felt like calling. So I did. I figured he was still on the road, so i wouldn't be waking him up...
Here's a good thing, it went to voicemail... remember how before it would kick me out of voicemail and say "please enter password." I asked him about that and he said it was because his phone has an option to put certain people on a special list. So, if my call WENT to voice mail, then I must be on that special list now. That's cool.
I left a message and he called me right back. He said he was resting at a reststop and thanked me for the wake up call.
Also spoke to my girl friend this morning because she talks to his roommate. (that's another long story but I'm not going to tell her story right now). Anyway, she called me to say that they had a good long conversation. And then, i asked.. did he say anything about richard and if he had a good time? I know, that was probably not a good thing to ask her, because it will get back to richard that I ask. Ooops. But my curiosity got the best of me.
She said, yes. Curtis had just got off the phone with Richard when they were talking. Curtis said.... LB and richard went out blah blah, and my friend said, "yea, I know, we talk." lol. And she happened to mention that her and I won't be going out this weekend... since Richard's out of town. Curtis laughed.. and said, how sweet. I'm feeling it's a fine line between not wanting to look clingy but also not wantng to look too much like a partier. I also feel a little exposed but not overly so... I pretty much don't say anything to my girl friend that I wouldn't say to richard. I'm kinda enjoying the humor of it all... at least I know everyone is being honest.
And I haven't even been out on a date in a couple months so I'm enjoying myself. I look forward to date number 2. Even the other night when Richard and I agreed to meet somewhere, I still thought "maybe he won't show...." Yes, it's no secret that I think all lot... some times too much... BUT I'm much better than I was a year ago.
Thanks for the friendship,
LB
I think we all think a lot at times.
I'm glad the conversations are going well, and would just say to continue viewing this as fun, and see if it goes somewhere.
Enjoy this and him, but don't close the door on other dates, either... just be open and honest and friendly, you'll have so much fun!
Moody, trying harder with the friendly part...
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