Happy dance - he called!

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Happy dance - he called!
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Wed, 02-07-2007 - 8:56pm

Happy dance... guy from the superbowl party called! We talked for about 20-30 minutes (I was working late, he was on his way to play basketball) and at the end he asked for my email (he says he's more of an email person) and then said to have fun on my vacation if he doesn't talk to me before then. (I'm leaving Fri for 5 days... I guess he remembered.)

Still overanalyzing, I'm sure, that I find it weird he didn't say something about getting together sometime, but he could be shy. One step, one day at a time, right?

Oh - and when he asked if I'd seen a certain game Monday night I said no, my daughter wasn't feeling well so I was watching Mister Rogers... he laughed and continued to tell me about the game.

Thanks!

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Registered: 11-20-2003
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 8:43am

Hi!

So glad he called... I'm pretty sure he didn't say anything about meeting up because he knew you would be away, and didn't want to risk looking clingy by asking you for a date in over a week's time.

I like the fact he remembered you are going on vacation - one good point in his favour. It's also cool that he wasn't phased by you mentioning your daughter. I think you can forget worrying about that now. He knows you have a child, it does not bother him, and now it all depends on whether you two like each other when you get to know each other better.

In my experience, men can have several different reactions to dating someone with kids:

- there are men for whom it is out of the question. Either they don't like kids, or can't be bothered with the extra hassle, or don't want the responsibility.

- there are some who are neutral. This could swing either way. If they're into you, then the kids aren't a real issue.

- there are some who are willing to give it a go, although they have no experience with kids. But they like you. When they stop liking you quite as much, this is when it suddenly becomes an issue. And the responsibility-free lifestyle suddenly becomes appealing again.

- and there are those who actively embrace your kids, because they are mature enough to realise that if you were not a mother, you would not be the wonderful, responsible, caring woman you are today. These are the ones that accept the constraints because they don't see your kids as a constraint - they see them as part of your life, and part of you. These are the real treasures. The keepers.

So, enjoy your vacation (see, I remember too lol!) and look forward to an update soon.

Clem xx

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 9:20am

Thanks! I'm starting to come to that realization - bringing it up early is good!

Keep your fingers crossed - my daughter is getting over the flu and I think she gave it to me, even though I'm getting on a plane in 24 hours for a ski vacation! Heading to the dr. now... =)

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 12:30pm

I completely agree with missclemmy....He is probably putting off asking you out until you get back so there is less pressure and anticipation!

Have a great time and I can't wait to see how this develops.