The hardest thing to do is NOTHING
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| Mon, 02-21-2005 - 10:07am |
Okay, I am improving myself. Usually I always try to hard to be the pleaser and have a guy like me. But now I am learning not to chase a guy and just to chill. I am also opening my heart and mind to other possibilities besides my coach!!
This weekend I met a nice guy - he is a sports rehab masseuse (and gorgeous triathlete) who specializes in athlete's strains and injuries. He was house sitting 2 doors down from a friend that I ride with so I went to see him after my ride because my hamstrings are very tight. He is so so cute. And we hit it off very well - lots of things in common - an hour went by in 1 minute it seemed. He was really nice. And there was some chemistry. I have met him before a few times at races.
I did a little research and he is separated and going through a divorce, has 2 small children. So timing is not good for him right now for sure. I am sure I will bump into him again.
With regards to my coach I am going to take a chill. Let him miss me and stop trying so hard to make us be more than we are at the moment.
So the best thing to do is NOTHING!! That is the hardest thing.

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Yeah, sometimes doing nothing IS the best thing, and when that's for the best, it's definitely hard. I can see why you'd have to "bide your time" with this guy, as he's still dealing with a divorce.
Hang in there! Glad you're keeping your options open and just having fun. If nothing else, it's a confidence booster!
I think it's great that you are staying open to other possibilities. Definitely, make your coach miss you a bit.
Can't wait to hear what happens for you this year. I think you're on the verge of something great. Your attitude is wonderful.
I totally agree. When I am unsure about things with my bf, or when he needs some space, I just say to myself that the relationship does not need to be made or not made this weekend, time will prove out whether it is supposed to be.
A gorgeous sports rehab masseuse and your tight hamstrings - sounds like a lovely combination regardless of what the future may hold!
I am curious, how does one do 'a little research' to discover that someone is in the process of a divorce and has two small children? You sound like a super sleuth. :) If I ever want to know something about a potential date, I'm calling you first.
Thanks First - that is a great saying - that a relationship does not need to be done or undone in one weekend!!
Let's see - for sleuthing. First I went to a website where I remember reading an athlete's bio on him - and his wife was mentioned. But something didn't ring right - why was he with no wedding ring (not that is a 100%) and why was he house sitting all by himself for a WHOLE weekend and why did he seem so single?
So I did what Candi does - go online to the court house! And low and behold, his divorce was filed last month. It is still pending.
So if you want a search you should really go to her -she was the mother of that invention!!
LOL, my supervisor showed me how she searches when she is considering someone for a job position. She was worried about my online dating escapades. :)
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