Well that is a big load to find out all at once - but seems to me from reading that it is stuff that will sort out over time. Maybe you will find a better job and doctor? Your daughter will learn to be more self sufficient? And hopefully your exh will pony up the money - did you tell him about that yet?
HUGS!! Keep us posted!!
As for the fiance - it really stinks that he lost his job and is not talking - but hopefully he will sort that out soon. Better to find this stuff out now than later. Keep us posted on that, too. Unfortunately that is one of those things that HE has to sort out so I guess all you can do is give him his space and let him do that. But I can see how that would freak you out and especially if he doesn't say anything.
Hey, sorry to hear how your day is going. Fortunately life gives us everything like this in one or two lumps so that the rest of the time and stuff is good. As with all things, the great powers that be will provide the answer when you need it. Just keep focused on what you want to happen, not what you don't want to happen.
Give your fiance some space. I know that you want to be there for him, to talk to him and help him through this. Remember the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus?" Well, we are somewhat cavemen, and we like to hunker down and process everything, get all the emotion out, battle ourselves internally first then we will open up to you. If he isn't talking much about it by day four or five, worry. Otherwise, just tell him you love him, that you are there, that you know everything will work itself out and that you will walk the path with him wherever it goes.
I am sure his provider instinct is hurting as well, as you are engaged and now he sees the possibility of not being the provider he thought he would be. That always stings.
Big Hugzz to you. Take a deep breath and relax. This is just a phase and will pass.
May be you can write a short email to your fiance and let him know that you are there for him no matter what and he can talk when he wants to.
It is hard to be strong all the time.. But you are doing a great job..
Dont worry much about what your DD says about you being
Well that is a big load to find out all at once - but seems to me from reading that it is stuff that will sort out over time. Maybe you will find a better job and doctor? Your daughter will learn to be more self sufficient? And hopefully your exh will pony up the money - did you tell him about that yet?
HUGS!! Keep us posted!!
As for the fiance - it really stinks that he lost his job and is not talking - but hopefully he will sort that out soon. Better to find this stuff out now than later. Keep us posted on that, too. Unfortunately that is one of those things that HE has to sort out so I guess all you can do is give him his space and let him do that. But I can see how that would freak you out and especially if he doesn't say anything.
Hey, sorry to hear how your day is going. Fortunately life gives us everything like this in one or two lumps so that the rest of the time and stuff is good. As with all things, the great powers that be will provide the answer when you need it. Just keep focused on what you want to happen, not what you don't want to happen.
Give your fiance some space. I know that you want to be there for him, to talk to him and help him through this. Remember the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus?" Well, we are somewhat cavemen, and we like to hunker down and process everything, get all the emotion out, battle ourselves internally first then we will open up to you. If he isn't talking much about it by day four or five, worry. Otherwise, just tell him you love him, that you are there, that you know everything will work itself out and that you will walk the path with him wherever it goes.
I am sure his provider instinct is hurting as well, as you are engaged and now he sees the possibility of not being the provider he thought he would be. That always stings.
If you need to chat, I'm here.
Zen
Thanks all for the support.