He asked me when he'll meet ds...
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He asked me when he'll meet ds...
| Thu, 08-26-2004 - 2:23pm |
I had told him that I didn't want him to meet ds yet, and he's fine with that. He admitted last night that he's actually worried in case Nicolas doesn't like him when they do meet. I thought that was so sweet! Of course, Nicolas is at the age where he sees a guy and just wants to play fight with them, since that's how he is with his dad. Funny to see until it's a stranger you're talking to... LOL
So when is the *right* time to introduce them? I do want to have them meet, so he can put a face to him and not just a picture, but I worry about when is the right time to have them *hang out*?
Anyone tell me how long they waited and what their feelings on it are?
Alison


Funny thing is that I have never introduced an SO as a SO or boyfriend. I always introduce as a friend or workout partner. He sees me with a lot of friends and workout partners.
BUT he always knows when one is special - and so far he has liked all of them.
Somehow you just know when the time is right - maybe it is when things have been going good for a while and the timing is right for both.
My sitter had a good saying to her boyfriend about children. He was here helping us install a closet. He commented on how she is so good with kids. And then he said he is not good with them - and she said - boo - everyone is good with kids. All you have to do is play with them and do what they like to do and they will love you.
I would wait until you see if this new man will be around for a while. I agree with West, three months is pretty good. But there was an article posted here on the board that talked about introducing kids to BF's and it said to wait six months. I think you have to go by the individual child and situation. I was dating Mark 6 months and he had not met my kids yet. He did talk to them on the phone, so my kids definitely knew about him. Actually, I liked the fact that they talked on the phone before they would actually meet because then BF would not be a stranger to them, and the introduction would be a little easier. I was ready for Mark to meet my kids, but in light of our present problems, that's not a good idea. My son is extremely protective of me, and he wants me to have NO boyfriends, so introducing a new BF to him will not be easy. But, I'm sure your situation is different. I agree that you will know when the time is right. But you might want to try the phone thing also to break the ice a little bit. My son loved talking to Mark on the phone. He would have a whole conversation with him, and he would even ask when he could meet him (which is really good for my son).
Donna
This week my son is over at grandma's because he just got home from his other grandma's and my mom offered to take the week off work so I didn't have to pay $100 for one week of daycare. So this week after I go to my mom's and visit with my son, then I get to visit with my new guy. Works out.
On another note, my mother approves of this guy- big bonus LOL
Alison