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he asked for MY number
| Tue, 11-14-2006 - 10:19pm |
Okay - from the IXNAY thread.
Remember the guy I bumped into in the restaurant? He was having dinner with his parents who are neighbors and friends of my sister. She and her other neighbor who is best friends with his mom have wanted to set us up for some time.
I have known him from running from some time back. He is nice - a single dad.
Well, my sister calls tonight and wanted to know if it is okay to give him my number. She goes on and on with details and is more excited than me. But I did say yes to that.
So will keep you all posted. I mean, he could be just wanting to ask me something about running. Not jumping to conclusions.

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Agreed, Shrimps, thanks for your thoughts. And thanks to everyone here.
I guess one of the reasons I wanted to explain my sport dedication is because a lot of guys who are not in shape are put off by it. And I am not going to get in less shape or hide it to appease them. I don't think I have to worry about this with him because his own accomplishments are very good and he is as dedicated to what he is doing.
I think the only concern I might have is to find out the situation with his ex and kids. His step mom commented that his exw really hurt him very badly and she took the kids to another state against his wishes. While I sympathize that is a horrible thing, I have to make sure he has come to grips with it and has somewhat of a stable situation with dealing with it.
We all remember First's story about her first bf when she came to this board. He was so caught up in a visitation battle that their relationship was all about that and not her. I have also had a relationship with a single dad whose exw and kids lived far from here - and he felt that if he fell in love with me he would be abandoning them. These dads absolutely do have to be true to their children - but we have to be wise not to get caught in the crossfire of something hopeless for us.
Dating in midlife is not what it was when we were young and without obligations. I think I have done a good job of coming to grips with that reality and I have worked hard to be happy alone. I think you have also done a great job - because you and Hiker are not rushing to the altar or having dreamy dreams - you are just enjoying each other one day at a time and respecting each other's lives and obligations.
But all of this talk could be in vain - he still has to call to go to coffee. :-)
My sister is going to dinner with his parents this weekend - it is kind of funny that way that she and her husband are neighbors with them and there are a bunch of them that go to dinner from time to time.
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