He called!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 07-14-2003
He called!!!!!!!!
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Fri, 04-29-2005 - 9:41am
We IMd most of the afternoon yesterday. We had a in-depth discussion that got pretty intense. I was actually blushing at some of the things he and I said. Somewhere towards the end he said he hated to type. So I told him he could always call me. AND HE DID! to top it off HE CALLED WHEN HE SAID HE WOULD! LOL!
He sounds exactly the same as he did 12 years ago! And the conversation went on as if we didn't miss a beat! I was floating on my way home yesterday. I am SO looking forward to our date next Friday and to see where this leads!
Right now, I am going to sit here at my desk and glow - just because I haven't been able to glow in so long. LOL! And I deserve this!

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sat, 04-30-2005 - 1:48am

No advice here, I just want to say that I understand how great it is to have that glow. After going through hell for various reasons and then to meet someone that gives you that glow, it's just fantastic. My own belief has always been that the glow doesn't necessarily mean that things will work out, but I will NEVER carry a relationship forward if that glow ISN'T there.

Michael

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Sun, 05-01-2005 - 11:38am
Michael - I know the glow is great! I am trying not to get too excited but it is hard! I feel like this one is the guy who got away. I keep wondering if he thinks the same because he admitted that he should have tried harder to win me over when we first met 12 years ago. He also keeps insisting that he pay for dinner, but I told him that I asked him so it is my treat. He doesn't seem to like the arrangement because he thinks he should pay....we'll see what happens!
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Registered: 02-28-2005
Sun, 05-01-2005 - 11:04pm

I just have to add...I had a fling with a man I had dated about 18 years ago, he has been married and divorced twice in the meantime, I had been married and (almost) divorced, and when we ran into one another I was SO SO excited, really thought that he could be the one who got away, that we were meant to be. He apparently thought the same thing, but after a few dates I remembered why we broke up (he is brilliant but socially inept, would go off on a tangent about world politics or whatever that nobody else knew WHAT he is talking about unless they have an IQ of like 200, impossible to have ordinary conversations with)and he almost turned into a stalker. Began calling me several times a day, talking about how different things could have been if he had behaved differently 18 years ago, things I had forgotten long ago. He would just drive to my side of town, then call to see if I could meet for coffee, that kind of thing. Also after our first date he began to talk half-joking about our future, how great it would be to take all of our kids out together, kind of a Brady Bunch kind of thing. Hello!! Scared the s*** out of me and I had to tell him to STOP calling me, emailing, etc. I had to tell him more than once and I know it really hurt him but honestly he kind of freaked me out. We did have sex on our second date, I meant it to be casual and even said jokingly well it's really like our 10th date not our 2nd if you count years ago, but I guess he has no sense of humor and even said to me after how different things would have been if he had made love to me 18 years ago. He also told me afterward he had not had sex in 3 years, so I should have known he's not the type for casual sex.

I don't know what my point is. Maybe take things slow, and avoid the casual sex thing! I decided to stick with my friend BOB (battery operated buddy) after that experience lol, no more casual sex for me!!

Jessie

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Registered: 03-04-2005
Mon, 05-02-2005 - 9:03am

Congratulations on the glow! It's nice to have that warm, romantic feel going on. As long as you have a standard of conduct to follow that will direct the course of the relationship (e.g., no sex right away) then you can safely bask in the glow and enjoy. Provided that you stick to your rules you will be protected from excessive heartache should things not work out. But I hope they do! Keep us updated.

Amy

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Mon, 05-02-2005 - 6:36pm
I agree with both Tricia and Candi here - when they come on real strong with sex in the beginning it usually means that is all they want.
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Wed, 05-04-2005 - 11:05am

Whoah! You guys are getting way ahead of yourselves! I HAVE NO INTENTION of SLEEPING WITH HIM! We have never had sex even when we were together. Our relationship wasn't long at all....we didn't exactly break up....I chose to date someone else exclusively.

Anyway, we haven't talked since that phone conversation and I think that is good, because I don't want to run out of things to talk about when we meet Friday. Tomorrow I am going to send him a "see you tomorrow email" and that's that!

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