He does seem to like me

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Registered: 02-20-2007
He does seem to like me
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Thu, 04-19-2007 - 11:44am

Well he called me on Tuesday to check in for next weekend. When I saw him on Sunday, he said he wasn't sure whether or not he would be in town next weekend but knew my kids would be with their dad. He thought he may be going out of town to a coach's workshop with some other coaches from his school. He called to say that he was indeed going and would be leaving on Friday. He said he would like to see me and was planning on leaving early so that he would at least be able to take me to lunch. Nice thoughtful, but he is waivering on the too busy side. He has been out of town practically every weekend since Easter. That is a lot in my book.

He calls to make plans but never to just talk. He clearly likes me and is polite, but not sure I'm feeling it. I may or may not see him this weekend. If he doesn't get back in time to see me, I will definitely say next. Even if I see him I may decide to pass. Not feeling the spark. I think he may end up being a friend and not anything more. I'm not really looking for "the one" but no sense in wasting anyone's time. It is better to do it sooner rather than later.

I may sign up for Match and see how that goes. Or maybe I'll meet someone when I go out with my girlfiends this weekend.

We shall see.

Priscilla

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 12:43pm

Hmmmm... I'm new to this whole single life thing...but I have to ask....are you sure that he is NOT married? Sounds like he likes to line things up with you, but has no time to chat and is "unavailable" quite a bit....
.....But I also have to jump in and say --- Easter was just two weeks ago! I wouldn't jump to conclusions just yet...

Rose

Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 2:57pm
Positive he is single. I only go out when my children are at their dad's for the most part so some of that is on me. Have not invited him to my house (he could come over after they go to bed but I'm not ready for that yet). I have been to his place. He also invited me to meet with him and his friends (married couples) for dinner and drinks. I know people that he knows and when we have been out we have run into dozens of his students, their parents and fellow teachers. He is certainly not trying to hide anything. He is just a very busy guy. I do think being out of town 3 out of 4 weeks in the month is a lot.
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 04-19-2007 - 4:16pm

If you have not agreed to exclusivity I would try to keep dating other people.

The good is that he is calling to make plans ahead of time and has interest in you. The cons are that he is not around that much - the constant travel would not sit well with me. But maybe that is a seasonal thing or something that won't go on forever?

Only time will tell you. For sure I would not want to be tied down yet.

And you are smart as you say in the next message that you don't want him over yet after the kids go to bed.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 9:35am

Absolutely no exclusivity yet. That would be way too soon. We haven't even really kissed yet.

I will continue to date others and just not shut the door yet on this one.

You have great advice.

Priscilla

ps - love your OLD adventures