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He has cancelled 3 times
| Fri, 10-21-2005 - 10:53am |
I was introduced to a guy through a group of friends and we have all been out together a couple of times since. He called me after the last get together and asked me if I would enjoy going out with him one on one. I was interested so we made tenative plans for this past weekend. Well on Friday he did not call and so I guess Friday night was out and then he called on Sat. He gave me a whole list of things he had to do that day and told me to call him after I got off work. I called and he did not answer then called back over an hour and a half later. He apologized profusely and said that tonight would not be possible and asked if we could go out one night this week. I gave him the benefit of the doubt because "life happens" to me all of the time. He called on Tuesday and aske me out for Thurs. and then on Thursday I called and left a message for him to call me back and let me know what time he would be picking me up. He called back and said he was headed to the doctor's office to get a shot for a migraine and that he would call me afterwards. He never called. He also said that he really really wanted to go out with me and that he was looking forward to it all week and cant beleive that this is happening. As I type this I see my answer, but tell me what you think anyway?

Act as if nothing happened. Because, nothing did happen. He just jerked your chain a bit.
Do not make any references to him calling you and cancelling. It's done and over. Don't mention it.
If you see him in the group, say 'hello' and that's it. If he tries talking to you or making apologies, just say, "oh, no need to apologize. I ended up going out with some friends." Then, forget all about him!!!
If he ever asks you out again, I would jerk him around big time. Tell him to call you. Then, don't answer your phone. Don't ever return a message.
p.s. do not go out with this man. ever.
This is an absolutely wonderful and perfect response and advice!!!!!!!!!!
Bravo, fivesense. I could not say it better.