Well, lets see. In reality, 4 months isnt that long, & I can see his wanting some time in that regard. BUT, it throws a WHOLE different lite on it when he is getting love texts from his X. AND ... you say I have absolutely no expectation that he'll actually do it though.
That doesnt give you much faith in the relationshnip. SO ... i would follow thru on your threat b/c it seems as if something is fishy!
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Hello, and welcome to SMAD ITA w/ the PP. It does not bode well for LTR when he acts ashamed of the relationship. Since you met in divorce recovery, I am presuming you are also fairly newly divorced. This relationship sounds more like a classic healing relationship, something to get you both moving on in life but not something that will last. There are lots of red flags as others have already pointed out. You have to decide when you are ready to move on to a relationship with someone who will want to yell from the rafters how much he adores you. You will find that the majority of the people on this board wait a long time before introducing a SO to their kids. It seems to work out better for the kids that way, unless the kids are adults, then it should not be a big deal.