He ruined it in 3 minutes flat

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Registered: 05-13-2005
He ruined it in 3 minutes flat
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Fri, 10-19-2007 - 8:28pm

Well, this guy is already in the trash and it only took him 3 minutes to get there!! (I told you not to get your hopes up - but this is indeed bad and a surprise since he did look so good on paper - this is the one who wants a gf who is a cyclist.)

Yesterday morning I had given him my number to call. But at 8PM last night I was exhausted from working and packing for my trip and DS and I were having a ball putting the house together for my parents to come. And I was helping him with a paper. I did not want the intrusion of his call at this point so late on a school night and since DS and I were working on his paper so I put my phone on silent. He called twice kind of late and left messages so I emailed him this morning saying sorry I missed his call and today I am going out of town for a race, but here are the good times to call.

Well, he calls and says "what happened last night are you like dating all the guys on match.com or what?" And then when I explained, which I don't feel I should have to do with someone I have not even met much less not agreed to exclusivity, that I was with my son he asked how old he was. And then he offered no information on his kid and then he asked if I even have time for a girlfriend. And then he said well he works a lot at his two jobs and maybe it is because he doesn't have someone. And he pushed for a date tonight - I explained AGAIN that I am going out of town for a race but will be back Sunday. And he says oh wow - we both put "legs" for our best parts - how lucky is that - and we will get along great we can have a date Sunday night. I said I don't know because I don't know how I will feel and if I can get a sitter for my son. I mean who wants to come back from out of town to rush off to a date and by now I have pretty much decided it would NOT be for him because he just turned me off so bad on the phone!!

He just said so many things I didn't like. So he is in the trash. It was like rapid fire of everything inappropriate. I think he is a very needy vacuum cleaner.

I think I am burned out from OLD for right now. My subscription expires in a few days and I think I will turn off my profile and get myself to more local fun things that I enjoy as I had typed before. UGH!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sat, 10-20-2007 - 2:55am

Ugh- ruined it is an understatement!


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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sat, 10-20-2007 - 10:13am

Ew, he DID violate many rules for respect, didn't he!?!? In such a short time, too! It didn't sound like he listened or heard anything you said! That's not a good sign at all!


I'd have NEXT'd him too. He might have wanted a cyclist for a girlfriend, but I think he also just wanted a girlfriend... ANY girlfriend (warm cyclist body) because he didn't seem to care WHO you were or what you thought. It seemed like he was ready to just ignore what you said, and then just keep on plowing through the process of dating and that was it.


Good call.


~shrimpy, who doesn't miss the mess of OLD at all (although Hiker came from there!)

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 10-20-2007 - 11:48am

What a big goober!!!

 
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Registered: 07-24-2007
Sat, 10-20-2007 - 1:57pm
Wow!
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Registered: 09-25-2007
Sat, 10-20-2007 - 4:02pm

"what happened last night are you like dating all the guys on match.com or what?"


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Registered: 10-07-2005
Sat, 10-20-2007 - 5:09pm

I agree- he has no right to know what or with whom you're doing things if you're not in an exclusive relationship- and even THEN, it would be only his business if you chose to SHARE that with him.


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Registered: 11-03-2003
Sat, 10-20-2007 - 6:11pm

Yeah, Syndey, that quote bothered me, too.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 5:34pm

I couldn't agree with you more - that is a good summary.

I have decided I need to put the OLD thing on hold right now. I just do not see any matches on there for me and it is time consuming and I am finding myself getting sick of it instead of having fun with it.

So, I "hid" my profile and sent him a note saying I am taking a break from online dating and I wish him well with his search.

When I was at my race this weekend (will post an update in another thread) I had a lot of fun talking to so many people in the registration process the day before the race, the line waiting to start in the morning and the finishing area after the race. There were a lot of nice guys who were really attracted to me and interested in me and they appreciate me because I do what they do. I also met up with a whole flock of them with my friend and her coach. The only problem is that they all live far away so none would be a match. But it all taught me a lesson.

I need to be out doing more local fit/fun things so MrRight can find me. There are plenty of races and fun activities and biking fundraisers around here to do. So, that is what I need to do. Shut off the computer and get out of the house more.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 5:39pm

You know, you are the originator, at least in my book, of the word "vacuum cleaner." And I always understood the concept and could relate to your stories from Racer.

But I had never experienced a vacuum cleaner before or seen one firsthand until now. This one was DYSON to the max. He only wants a warm body and will grab the first one he sees without any regard to how the body FEELS about things.

Thanks to everyone here who offered comments and agreed! Gotta love this board!

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Mon, 10-22-2007 - 6:18pm

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omg Judy my jaw dropped when I read that. It floors me how some guy would think that would be a NICE thing to say???


NEXT!!!!!!


Geez. By the way it's so great to hear that you have that sense about you...having fun with DS, enjoying your life, and not hanging in the words of a guy who unfortunately looked pretty good on paper...Way to go, sister! :o)


~Pacific~

~Pacific~

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