He said he'd call UPDATE
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He said he'd call UPDATE
| Tue, 10-04-2005 - 10:30am |
Well, I thought I would update all of you on my situation. Remember the guy I was dating and he said he would come over and help me with my sons bike? Well, anyways, I ended up calling him and he said he'd been real busy with work etc, and that he did want to go to lunch last week. We agreed to go, but I had to cancel because of a meeting and so I called him yesterday to reschedule. Turns out he wanted to go to the lunch to have a talk with me about us. He said he thought about it a lot and decided he didn't know what he wanted, and had cold feet. He wasn't ready for a comittment or to settle down since it has been 2 years since his divorce. This upsets me because I really like him and was at the point in the relationship where it would be intimate,however I am not willing to be intimate with someone if they want to date others. I didn't give him a hard time about it, and just tried to remain friendly. I am sure we will see each other again around, we live in a small community. He said well you never know what will happen, we will stay in touch. WHATEVER, I am pissed at him becuase all the other signs and things he said to me were so totally diferent. I thought that he did want to be involved with me. Oh, well, now I will jsut have to move on and I will stay away from dating for awhile! Have great day...

That stinks for sure - but you do have 2 things to be grateful for - 1) that he told you this upfront and 2) that you were NOT intimate with him.
You pretty much landed on your feet, which is good. Sorry you had to have this disappointment. I guess you just have to take a break now, and I don't blame you for that.
When you find a great guy who is really smitten with you, you will forget about this one!!
Good luck and keep us posted.
You are so lucky that you had not slept with him already. It would have been more emotional for you.
I really think you should start to feel better in a couple of weeks. You hadn't gotten in that deep with him. You were mostly crushing on him.
I don't think you need to take a whole big break from dating. Just DO NOT date that guy again. You might want to read the book "Don't Call That Man" If a man says he's going to call and he doesn't, then don't call that man.
I know you don't feel like you landed on your feet right now. But I think you will get over this sooner than you think. You were smart to avoid sex too soon and you know why he didn't call. And you know where you stand. Plus you sound sensible to me in how you are dealing with all of this.
Taking a break from dating and working on you is a good idea now. And of course you should read and post with us!!
Do you have some goals or projects you are working on? Are you staying busy?
I can understand how you are loney for a companion. And I know how you feel after a divorce. I think the pain and disappointment of a failed marriage are harder than most people think. It kind of leaves a big hole in your heart. Time and activities will make that go away - it is one of those things you have to fill yourself. THEN you will be in a good state to meet the right person.
Scrapbooking and hiking sound like fun. I have a big scrapbook project sitting in my closet - waiting for me to finish.
I hope this hard time passes quickly for you. Stay and post with us!!