He said "yes"!!!!!

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Registered: 07-14-2003
He said "yes"!!!!!
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Wed, 04-13-2005 - 11:45am
So we were IMing and he was talking about work and I spoke about my work and how my boss wants me to attend more conferences. Then I told him there was a conference near him and I ASKED if he would like to meet up for lunch. He said yes! Actually he said "sure" "when". The he proceeded to say he needed to know if it would be this week because he was going out of town and he would have to take a raincheck.
May 6 is the day. I just sent him an email asking where he wants to meet. My heart is pounding so hard....(is this what it is like to be the guy?)....Now I am getting REALLY nervous. I am not sure what to wear or what to talk about. I am hoping that he will take the lead during lunch and I am hoping it will lead to something more. This is the first time I have ever done this! I am amazed at myself!

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Fri, 04-15-2005 - 4:22pm

Hey! sorry, I just walked in on this one. Don't know the history behind your story or how long you've been IMing with this person. how did you meet?

So has he committed to meeting you?

I would wear whatever is appropriate for your conference and just freshen yourself up a bit before meeting him.

You've already taken the first step to let him know you're interested, let him do the rest of the work...if he doesn't, then he could turn out to be a dud.

Good luck! hope it works out for you!

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Sat, 04-16-2005 - 6:55pm
We met in college. He was a junior I was a freshman. He lived on my floor in the dorm. I wound up going out with another guy who also lived on our floor. I got my heart broken. After that relationship ended, I thought about contacting him but was too afraid to. Now that I have failed at my marriage and am a single mom, I felt I had nothing to lose in contacting him. So here I am. He agreed to meet with me....I am waiting for a response as to where he wants to meet. I am not sure what to talk about...since we are always told not to rehash the past. But I want to learn about him. I HOPE HE TAKES THE LEAD after this "meeting"
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Registered: 09-17-2004
Sun, 04-17-2005 - 9:55am
Pllleeeeaaaase make sure he's not married or in a committed relationship before you persue this any farther.
Sanguine
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Registered: 04-16-2005
Sun, 04-17-2005 - 3:39pm

Wooo-Hooo !! I am happy for you. Have fun and dress "desireable", then see if sparks fly!! Keep us informed.

Jazzy.

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 8:59am
Well I came right out and asked him when we first IMed. He is not married...he was supposed to get married over two years ago, but his engagment fell though. He said he was not involved with anyone at this time. LET THE GAMES BEGIN!
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Registered: 01-19-2005
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 9:33am

"You've already taken the first step to let him know you're interested, let him do the rest of the work..."

Bad advice. Dating is hard work (expecially first dates), and one should never assume that the other person should "do the rest of the work". If she takes your advice and just sits there, letting him do all the talking, then there is a strong possibility that he will think she is boring. Finding the right person means putting yourself out there, not being a wallflower. Although I have never posted on this board I thought it necessary to give this woman better advice...

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 10:07am

Thanks Madel! I had no intention of being the wallflower. I just wanted to let him pursue me since I took the first step to locate him.

However, things are not going as planned. I haven't heard from him about where he wants to me. I know he was away on vacation for the weekend BUT I was hoping he would have responded to my last email - "where would you like to meet for lunch?" I was hoping he would have gotten back to me.

I am not going to email him to ask again especially since we are two weeks away from the meeting date BUT as usual it is killing me. (I do this all the time, I get so worked up, so I am practicing c-a-l-m-i-n-g down and focusing on other things)

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 3:05pm
I'm sorry, I should have been more clear in my definition of "doing the rest of the work." But I think she understood what I meant based on her reply.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 4:44pm

I've got to tell you, you sound like you're putting too much on this date. Way too much. And too much stress will be OBVIOUS to this guy...and you'll squash what may very possibly be a fledgling relationship. Somehow, you have to make your appointment, and then concentrate on life. Your kids. Your job. Your other social engagements. It'll come across to him, and he'll run fast. And you don't want to feel this worked up over one date anyway, do you?


That being said, has he gotten back with you? I wouldn't mail again. You will be pursuing too hard at

Becky

 

 

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Registered: 07-10-2001
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 11:50pm

He's missed your signal...it's that simple...he's still thinking simple lunch and you're thinking romantic revival. Send another e-mail...just a simple, "Hey, I didn't hear back, where/when do you want to meet for lunch."

As for what to wear, I have only one recommendation...wear shoes you can dangle. Open toes, something with a strap you can dangle the shoe on your toe with! And make sure you sit someway that he'll see it.

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