He said "yes"!!!!!

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Registered: 07-14-2003
He said "yes"!!!!!
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Wed, 04-13-2005 - 11:45am
So we were IMing and he was talking about work and I spoke about my work and how my boss wants me to attend more conferences. Then I told him there was a conference near him and I ASKED if he would like to meet up for lunch. He said yes! Actually he said "sure" "when". The he proceeded to say he needed to know if it would be this week because he was going out of town and he would have to take a raincheck.
May 6 is the day. I just sent him an email asking where he wants to meet. My heart is pounding so hard....(is this what it is like to be the guy?)....Now I am getting REALLY nervous. I am not sure what to wear or what to talk about. I am hoping that he will take the lead during lunch and I am hoping it will lead to something more. This is the first time I have ever done this! I am amazed at myself!

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 3:25pm

Becky - you are right. I am stressing and for no good reason. AZ - I sent him an email following up. Still haven't heard back. As far as I am concerned if he doesn't email back that is that. I will get the "hint" that he is not interested and then no longer have to wonder about the what ifs.

PS - AZ -Shoe/foot fetish?

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Registered: 07-10-2001
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 6:13pm

I don't know a man on the planet that doesn't notice a woman's shoes, nail polish, ankle jewelry. I won't bother to explain why that is...I'll leave that to your own devices to figure out....but trust me...

And NO, I don't have a foot "fetish". :)

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sat, 04-23-2005 - 3:33am

I'm a little curious about why the male input is wanted, also. If it's to understand why he's doing what he's doing, all I can tell is why I would do those things, and I don't know how normal I am in those areas.

I think I know when a woman is interested in me. When I think that she's interested in me but I'm not interested in her, I am slow to answer her letters. I feel rude in doing so, but I also want to send a message that I'm not eager to deal with her. I don't want to appear to be upset, just not interested beyond casual friendship. So I treat her the same way I'd treat a guy - I answer letters "later".

Unless there's something that requires immediate action, it's normally okay to take up to a week or two for me to answer a guy about anything. If that's what this man is doing, and I think it is, then he's letting you know that he isn't interested. After all, even when I'm out of town, I can still get and answer my email and I make a point to do so with a woman that I'm interested in.

Michael

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